95 year old Mum in hospital but this pain in groin?

Gilly123 my mum had a fractured pelvis and did not make the progress she should have, so we were told she could come home with 2 carers coming in 3 times a day. She could not walk and it seemed unlikely she would improve. I think one of the difficulties is that at such an age the muscles deteriorate so quickly when they are in bed, and walking becomes steadily more difficult. Have you asked if they would consider allowing her home before she reaches that stage? Sometimes old people make much more progress when they leave hospital
Hope you don't mind me making suggestions. I do hope you are looking after yourself as well try to fit in time for a treat for yourself sometimes. You need something to keep you going

Yes encouraged to drink lots of water. Said cranberry juice is important but she doesn't like it. I purchased her a bottle with built in straw, saw nurses have theirs in kitchen, so thought that means she doesn't need to ask for humiliating baby cup to be filled with water. She sometimes manages to drink from a cup another time she seems too weak. I make her a cup of tea and she holds plastic hospital mug and drinks it. No pattern to it. Anyway told her there is times on her new bottle so she can see how much she gets to in the day. Also told her l bought one so we will do it together. Even bought one with green lid as it is her favourite colour. Put her name on it as tomorrow she may say it is not hers.

All suggestions very welcome.

Oh doctors very good nearly always there to talk to and when we go in they may say gone to x-ray to check again. She loved her Doppler scan on her leg but told them each time they are looking in wrong place - it is her knee they should look at because it gives out. When she told me l said you have had an x-ray on your knee last year and she denied it. Note: texted my brother to ask if he gets chance to see if they have ruled out diverticulitis. No signal in ward but he might come out to tell me how she is. Thank you for all your suggestions.

ps my sympathy, Gilly.
Just to add to my post above, she needs to drink lots of water. Poor lady, Poor you.

There is a rehabilitation package waiting for 6 weeks with nurses coming in 3 times a day. But just as we think she is on the up she goes down again. Urine infection and antibiotics again this time with a minor chest infection. They will let her home, when meds finish, but OT want het to walk 10 metres with the walker and the aid of one person. I believe it is so they have a base line to work on. Thank you

It could be a hernia. I have one in the groin which is sometimes very painful. I try to push it back in, but sometimes it takes ages. It rumbles and the pain goes when I pass wind (upper or lower.).
Because it's part of the intestine, where the food goes through. Sorry to be so graphic!
I've talked to the Dr about it.

Is the stone causing the pain? If the Drs don't know, what investigations are they planning to find out? Was the seizure caused by by renal failure? When did you last speak to a doctor?
Yes very good idea to say what you think about dnr, sounds like you should ask for an appt to see the docs.
All best wishes.

My heart goes out to you Gilly I know how stressful it is with an elderly mum in hospital and in pain. My mother of 93 was in hospital for several weeks last year after falling down the stairs and eventually went home with a care package, so it is ongoing really. I do hope they manage to diagnose and deal with your mum's current pain and she gets some relief. Let us know how she progresses. Don't feel guilty when you have done what you can. It's not easy when you have your own problems as you get older.

I assume they have checked for diverticulitis ,my cousin has this and the release of wind by pressing on his groin is something he does..Certainly some sort of bowel problem as I have colitis and thats where my pain is too.The lymphoedma is something my late mother had i n her last weeks and she was diagnosed with progressive heart failure...thats an ongoing condition and we were told she could live with it for years.I hope they get a diagnosis sooon and let you have some peace of mind .Not knowing is much harder to cope with than the knowledge of what you're coping with.I hope she feels better soon

So sorry to hear about your problems Gilly123 I went through the same thing very recently with my mum, who was in hospital for 3 months after a fall. It is so tiring and our hospital was just up the road. Firstly I was told that the effects of a urine infection can be long lasting in an elderly person (my mum had 2 as well). In her case she suffered bouts of not knowing what was happening and imagining things all caused by the infection. Do ask them to check that she is completely clear. My mum also had very bad cramps in her legs, due to a sodium inbalance, it might be worth asking for it to be checked. We had a lovely social worker who was doing his best to set up a care package so mum could come home. Unfortunately she contracted pneumonia and died- it was very quick and painless.
We did discuss with her a Do Not Resucitate Agreement and this was put in her file. I was so pleased we had done this. If we hadn't she would have been subjected to the pain and indignity of the crash team and been put on machines. As it was her death was a shock, but easier for her. I hope you don't mind me suggesting you talk to your mum and the family about this. One of the nurses looking after mum said it was what she woud do for her own mum.
I hope you manage to get through this and your mum gets home soon.

Gilly do you have the financial resources to employ a nurse/carer so she could go home? do the doctors have anything to say about her prognosis?

Thank you both of you. She desperately wants to come home and if only we could grant that wish even for a few days as who knows she might get back some of her joy - if that's the right word. But we know we couldn't cope on our own but help will come in for 6 weeks initially.

I tell the doctors and the OT's all my thoughts and requests even in writing. They are very kind. My notes are put in her file. If only this pain a had 'named reason. We can understand why she says she would rather have a baby - it can be timed like contractions. She presses really hard on the area and then you get a release of 'gas' from one end of the other.

I feel l am just one of so many on here going through all this but like any of you it is just the tiredness that seems to be around me all the time. Housework l look at it and think tomorrow maybe, getting something to eat feels like a huge chore. I used to go to Tai Chi but Wednesday mornings were took up with my mum and now hospital trips. I could try to do it at home but get lost into thinking l will do that later... but nothing gets done. I have tried listening to meditation on my Walkman and several times fell asleep. I am going to try to this each day...try...is what l am sure most of you feel. It seems we are in limbo if we had a name for this pain we would know what we are dealing with. You can suggest peppermint tea, no thank you. Mint imperials to suck - no thank you. Thank you for listening. P.S. do men find it easier to switch off? Mind you my husband has to be careful he doesn't say the wrong thing.

gilly you have done so well. Just make sure the doctors are aware of your concerns, and leave it to them.

So sorry to hear about your difficulties. It is so hard to do your best when parents are reaching the last stages of life. Many people are unable to do it and a care home is the only option.