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Ntrying1 Sat 13-Oct-18 07:21:15

Should a grandchild (19yrs) pay towards housekeeping.
How much? a week.
Working, own room, food washing
What do you think?

Ntrying1 Sat 13-Oct-18 07:31:30

Should a grandchild (19yrs) pay towards housekeeping
How much a week?
Is working , has own room, food washing done,
What do you think?

ninathenana Sat 13-Oct-18 07:34:30

If they are working then yes, they should pay 'keep' To me age is irrelevant in this regard but how much should depend on earnings.

tanith Sat 13-Oct-18 07:36:10

Yes, otherwise how will they learn how to manage their money if everything is free. If you don’t need to charge them then squirrel it away to return it at a later date as a deposit on their own space maybe. If you could use the funds to help with your household expenses then so be it, don’t feel bad.
The amount needs to reflect the amount they earn, 30% of income sounds fair to me.

Greenfinch Sat 13-Oct-18 07:44:58

Yes but just a small amount unless you really need it to feed him etc.

annsixty Sat 13-Oct-18 07:55:29

I always took a contribution from my chilren.
I didn't need it and saved it for them.
Sadly it didn't help them to budget as neither of them are good at budgeting unlike their father and me,

Eglantine21 Sat 13-Oct-18 08:13:43

I think people should always pay their way.

Work out what the extra cost is to you and charge him that.

silverlining48 Sat 13-Oct-18 08:22:36

If working they should pay for bed and board even if you keep it and are able to return it later for deposit etc. It teaches them to budget and that as an adult they have responsibilities.
If they look at what they woukd have to pay elsewhere they will realise how lucky they are to pay so little. At 15 when I started work I had to pay one third of my meagre wage to my mother and I didnt get it back later. Living costs and it’s not a bad lesson to learn.

Auntieflo Sat 13-Oct-18 09:12:51

I also think one third of their income to you, one third for them to save and the rest for their expenses.
Our youngest son was the very devil to get to pay up, but now he is so sensible and organised, you wouldn’t recognise him.
It isn’t fair to let a young person get away with paying nothing towards their keep, how will they learn the value of anything? It may appear hard, but it’s really not.

FlexibleFriend Sat 13-Oct-18 10:15:28

I never took money from my children but made it plain that they were expected to budget and save for the things they wanted, whether that was a new car or eventually a property of their own. They've both had several cars over the years and still do but have also managed to pay for their own weddings and house deposits. I believe my children are adults and should be treated as such. They never had a free ride as they always contributed when they wanted a flash new bike for example we'd negotiate and usually end up paying half each. So I already knew they were capable of money management and certainly knew how much things cost and the value of everything.

jackfowler Wed 10-Jul-19 12:13:21

Housekeeping in a hotel is a very physically demanding job that includes many, varied tasks. The actual amount of work depends on the size of the room and the number of beds. A housekeeper needs between fifteen and thirty minutes to do one room. A housekeeper carries out the following tasks:

making beds
tidying rooms
cleaning and polishing toilets, taps, sinks, bathtubs and mirrors
washing floors
removing stains

wildswan16 Wed 10-Jul-19 12:33:26

Adult children should always contribute to household expenses. If you can afford it, you may choose to put this contribution to one side and donate it back at a later date, but learning to budget is an important life skill and has to start at home.

annep1 Wed 10-Jul-19 12:36:52

Yes they should pay but depends on their income and how much it costs you.
I started work in 1967. My (very poor) mum took so much that I was lucky I had enough left for bus fare and lunches. Nothing for clothes or going out, never mind saving. I had a good clerical job at top level pay so should been well dressed. So my starting point would be what does gc need to live on.

M0nica Thu 11-Jul-19 09:48:28

Yes. My mother took money off me from the time I had a summer job. Not that she needed the money, but, as she said, if I was working I should pay towards my upkeep. I did exactly the same with my children.

It is good training to realise that life isn't a free ride.

As for how much. I would say about a third of their net earnings up to a maximum of about £50 a week

sodapop Thu 11-Jul-19 10:00:03

I think we all agree on this, adult children should pay their way. One third of their earnings is fair even if parents give it back at a later date in the form of house deposit etc. It does them no favours to expect everything to be provided. I would also expect them to keep their room tidy, change the bed etc.

Charleygirl5 Thu 11-Jul-19 10:31:35

I agree with tanith and sodapop. They should not be waited on hand and foot- how are they going to learn?

M0nica Thu 11-Jul-19 15:28:48

Remember the money is towards the cost of food, fuel, rates etc. If they want service as well (washing and ironing etc) they pay the going hourly rate, ie, the national minimum wage.

Nonnie Thu 11-Jul-19 15:56:02

Yes, of course. A colleague of mine said that he took a percentage of his children's salary which rose as their salary rose. He said that it would help them to realise when it was time to buy their own home! Mine had already left so I couldn't apply the same rule but I thought it was a great idea. It wouldn't cover the costs when they were starting out but it would start to teach them to budget. It could always be saved for them when they needed it later.

Nannarose Thu 11-Jul-19 15:59:31

I agree in principle, but a lot depends on culture and expectations. My nephew had a father from a culture that seemed to expect young men to lounge around, and apparently do very little until their late 20s. My sons, his cousins, were appalled (not sure if they were envious!) as he travelled the world on his parents' money (and they were by no means wealthy). When at home he did nothing.
Suddenly, age 27, he decided to train as a chartered accountant and they financed this. His career took off and he is now, age 40, very well off.
He regards it as his responsibility to ensure that his widowed mother (state + small private pension) lives comfortably, he pays for all her (very good) holidays and 'treats'. His father's family regard this as normal, and as you see, it is discussed openly. Indeed, they comment on my sons' jobs, wondering about them supporting me. They laugh when I say I am independent!

SalsaQueen Thu 11-Jul-19 17:55:03

I think it depends on how much the person is earning. I didn't charge my sons much when they lived at home, and I did all the shopping, cooking, washing and ironing for them.

paddyann Thu 11-Jul-19 17:56:42

My mother didn't take money from us or ask us to do chores around the house..I did cook but that was because I always loved to cook .Mum said we'd have decades of looking after homes ahead of us and should enjoy being young and carefree while we could .Her own father didn't want any of his girls to work but WW11 scuppered that and they all got jobs.
My "young and carefree " days didn't last long I was married and had my own business by the time I was 22 .

Daisymae Thu 11-Jul-19 18:05:22

Yes of course they should also be taught how to work the washing machine.