tidyskatemum
' My dear old dad said no to any support that was offered as he saw it as a sign of weakness.'
I think that one sentence hit the nail on the head possibly.
I have gone through being the sole carer for both my father-in-law and my dad and I genuinely believe what I saw as cantankerous behaviour on their part was in fact proud men knowing their masculinity had been taken away . If the word masculinity is a poor choice then independence and ability to maintain their own decision making ability for themselves.
Luckygirl the one true saying that resonated with me was 'You only hurt the ones you love ' . You are no doubt the proverbial ' whipping post ' at the moment because you are his nearest and dearest. [ flowers]
Parents-in-Law. What do/did you call them?