When my husband was due to come home after a couple of massive strokes, he was like a baby that couldn’t do anything apart from lay in his bed and shout, he was first sent to a cottage hospital while my home was sorted to be made ready for him. If you do decide to having her live with you then prepare yourself to live on a hospital ward as this is what your home will feel like.
We had a through room downstairs, no division in it, the front part was the family’s the back was where my husband plus lots of his equipment was, the overflow was in the front room and downstairs toilet, had to get rid of so much furniture though I did object when the OT told me if I got rid of the fridge something could fit in there. On top of all that there were two carers three times a day but district nurse when a catheter needed changing or had gone wrong.
Once they have her home the social workers seem to disappear, never around when you call and after so many months you find out they have left.
I had a young family who spent most of the time upstairs, wasn’t having them see their dad stripped off and no dignity for him, after 7 years he had to go to 24hr nursing home care as my own health was failing and he was getting worse, last 5 years of it he had dementia as well.
Sorry for this being so long but please don’t let them tell you it will be a bed of roses and easy to do because it isn’t. Very best of luck to you