My mother is 95 and has always been very healthy. Until recently, I cannot remember her having a single day's sickness (she retired at 80) and has always had no time for weakness of any kind. A few years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimers and her deterioration has escalated lately. She has had a couple of falls, which she only tells us about after she has recovered. She refuses to wear her SOS pendant, she hangs it on a high hook so she knows where it is! She cannot cope with electrical appliances very well; washing machine, cooker, central heating, etc but maintains that they are 'broken' and phones me (and calls out engineers) frequently. She is stubborn and always knew best, I suppose she always had to be in control of us all. Cutting a long story shortish, I am worried about her being at home alone but she refuses point blank to consider help of any kind, or the thought of going into a care home. She won't move in with either of us. My sister pops in about 3 times a week as she lives quite close but has a very busy life. I visit twice a week (different days) for a few hours at a time as I live further away but find the journey a struggle. A kind neighbour rings her every morning and my sister and I ring her at least once a day. She complains about everything (she always has) and guilt-trips me every day (and always has). She is wicked to my sister who doesn't have a lot of patience. Any suggestions to make all our lives more pleasant? Sorry for the ramble.
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