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Live-in care

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Riverwalk Sun 02-Jun-19 06:29:37

Lucky just to point out that, as a rule, live-in carers provided by a specialist agency don't do all the housework, cooking and laundry, only that of the client.

In addition to providing personal care to your DH they'll keep his room & bathroom clean and tidy, make his meals and do his personal laundry.

Grandma70s Sun 02-Jun-19 06:01:27

My brother and sister-in-law had a live-in carer for SIL’s 90+ mother, who lived with them. They could not manage the nursing care themselves. It was very expensive but worked well. Previously they had tried a very nice care home, but she had not been happy there. Having her at home with a live-in carer worked out a bit cheaper, but that wasn’t the main consideration. They have enough money and a large house, which obviously helps.

crazyH Sat 01-Jun-19 23:06:08

What a brilliant idea Alexa.
I would willingly accommodate a homeless person in exchange for some domestic and garden help. I live alone and have spare rooms.

Alexa Sat 01-Jun-19 22:45:58

I would very much like if there was an employment organisation which would help householders and homeless people to swap what they have to offer. Each party would have to be vetted and police checked.

The idea would be for a young and fit homeless person to exchange a set amount of domestic and or personal care for accommodation. I would expect the arrangement would have safeguards so that neither party would be exploited.

grannyqueenie Sat 01-Jun-19 22:45:13

No personal experience but a good friend did this for her frail elderly parents. Her mum had advanced PD and her dad had his own needs. It seemed to work very well for them and they spoke very highly of the woman who lived in. Good luck with it all, you’re in a very stressful situation. x

Luckygirl Sat 01-Jun-19 22:39:07

Has anyone any experience of this, either for themselves or for a relative?

I have been looking into this during this week. The finances are horrifying, and our savings will vanish speedily; but, that aside, there are many considerations....
What it might be like to have a stranger living in the house? Whether we would cope with that or get on? etc. etc.

But the advantages are very clear: consistent care instead of several carers coming in and out (and me having to show them where everything is etc. over and over again!); freedom for me to pop in and out when I need to and not have to arrange odd bits of care here and there; cooking, laundry, housework all done as well as the care.

We currently have 3 care visits a day plus extra care when I have to go out. And I do all the housework, laundry etc. - which is a struggle on crutches - I am happy to do it obviously, but if this knee problem continues it is very hard to do. I could get all this for not a huge great deal more money.

Decisions, decisions!