Bobbydog, I am going through the exact treatment as you. My husband is also terminally ill, he has asbestosis and really bad arthritis running with it as well. He has difficulty breathing and everyday suffering with pain. Like you, I am his wife, carer, nurse, cleaner, cook and skivvy that gets shouted at more or less everyday. I cry,, I fight back but the problem doesn’t go away. I offer to take him out in his wheelchair but he prefers to sit in his chair 24/7, yes, he doesn’t even go to bed as he cannot lie down. It’s a nightmare, never ending. However,, he has a carer in the morning and has 3 different male friends that come to visit him on certain days. I go out, for half days to recharge my life and feel I’m getting some normal life. It is hard, I don’t like the situation we are both in, I didn’t ask for this but have no choice. Please feel free to contact me if you feel the need. Best of luck, we are in the same boat. X