My husband was diagnosed 3 years ago with secondary spinal cancer the primary being thyroid. He has had operations and radiotherapy since and after the initial shock and periodically venting his anger verbally on me he was able to live with the knowledge his illness was terminal.
Fast forward to now and after falling twice it appeared he had a pathological fracture of his upper left arm caused by the crumbling bones. He has had this sorted with a plate and rods and has to wear a sling all of the time. Also since his returned from his stay from hospital he has become incontinent. The reason for this doctors are not sure but he has to wear padded pull ups during the day and a big pad at night.
He has a member of a reliability team come in each morning to teach him how to wash himself and stay mobile. The rest of the time I do everything for him. I appreciate he has a lot to contend with but he is so offhand and bossy. Everything I do is wrong, he has me up and down for things he wants and constantly and if I am in another room he shouts me to do things he could quite easily do himself. If I object it results into a slanging match.
When lady comes to help him he's so polite and friendly, thanking them for all their support, all I get is criticism and nasty comments. He could not function without my help yet it's as if he resents me. We had a huge row last night where I came away feeling guilty and frustrated because I know nothing will change because he doesn't think he's being unreasonable. Is this going to be my existence until one of us pops their clogs. At this rate I'm hoping it's me first. I'm not depressed before anyone asks just totally sick of a husband who is an ungrateful, unfeeling man.
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