What the heck do I do?

My mother in law was the same Luckygirl it was difficult hearing the racist remarks coming out of the mouth of a 'sweet little old lady'.

I'm sure its not a new problem for agencies and hospitals. Surely the staff realise its the illness talking. I worked in mental health services for a long time so I learned how to separate the illness from the person.

Such a difficult situation for you Luckgirl. You have my sympathy.
Care agencies will have met these sort of problems before. My late fil with dementia, had very embarrassing behaviour issues and was thrown out of one lovely care home. We were very lucky to eventually find another home that would take him.
I hope you can find a solution.

Gosh that's a tough problem. As if things weren't hard enough. What happens if whoever turns up is black? If they just get on with the job might he get used to them and forget his prejudice as he finds out about them as a person?

Sorry I am really of no help here but I wish you all the best and hope you find some way out.

In fact we live in the middle of the Herefordshire countryside and you can count the number of black people living this area on two hands - all the homes I visited looking for respite had all-white staff. So for him, in this context, it feels unfamiliar for him; and he is so vulnerable at the moment.

The weekend agency carers at my H's care home were all black as were most of the staff in hospital Drs and nurses alike.
It will not be solved by him not being at home, just not so awkward for you and the carer.
So sorry for you

How awful for you both.

There is also the difficulty that if he was in a hospital or care home many of the staff will be black. You will still be up against a brick wall.

My sympathy.

Luckygirl a sad situation indeed. I have no advice to give but did not want to "read and run"

I think the explanation that it is his illness can be spoken luckygirl. My brother (who was the most polite person you could meet) when in late stage dementia looked at another patient in the ward and said good grief what’s that. Yes it is embarrassing but presumably he can’t help it. Can you not explain to the agencies and see if they have anyone who can help. So sorry for your stress.