What arrangements should we put in place for old age

We have POA’s in place and advanced decisions (living wills). Having seen my Mum in care, then nursing care homes for over ten years, with vascular dementia, the living will is particular important to me as it states not to repeatedly give me antibiotics from a certain point if I too have dementia. Our house has a downstairs toilet and could easily accommodate a stairlift. We have local shops, doctors etc and a hospital 6 miles away, with very good local friends and both children, for now, wishing a few miles.

should add our powers of attorney have not been activated!

We have completed powers of attorney and recently moved from having our own bank accounts to making them joint. OH does most of the financial planning because basically I'm idle but I know how to access the information I need to deal with our finances if God forbid he goes before me. We've talked about what we would wish should we have a catastrophic stroke or injury etc and our daughter, who is a doctor also knows. OH is keen to downsize but I love our house and actually should one of us become disabled in some way, we have a downstairs bedroom and bathroom should that be needed.
tbh It's difficult to cover all bases but we talk very frankly about the future and how our needs might change, not just with each other but also with our daughter.

It is also massively important to talk to your family about what you want, 'in case of ...', things like DNR, organ donation, life-support machines, etc. Also to adapt accommodation, if one does not want to move, to be suitable for being cared for- like shower with good access and WC downstairs.

I do not want my children or OH to have to care for me beyond a certain stage, and I do not want them to spoil their life to look after my needs, and certainly never want them to have to 'toilet' me, etc. But I do not want to go to a Care Home. So adaptations have to be made well in advance, honest discussions too. And even discuss assisted death, and in which conditions, to protect relatives (eg join an association abroad, Belgium, Holland, Switzerland and make practical plans, just in case). If I am ever diagnosed with Alzheimers, time to act would be very short, so everything has to be well planned in advance).

Beyond what kittylester says, I am not sure what you can do. Nobody knowa in advance what will happen in extreme old age.

My mother died in her sleep, while on holiday recovering from a particulalry busy period in her social life. She was 85. DF was running the village until his death after a short illness at 92. On the other hand another two elderly relatives spent a considerable period in a care home. My parents had 'down-sized' to a large bungalow, the others lived in houses they had lived in for years.

In the end it didn't really make a lot of difference.

I think the main thing is to maintain an open state of mind, being prepared to accept the changes mental and physical that may overcome you and to accept the changes in your life that may be necessary.

Meryl ? yes, we are still at that stage too, with no sign of things ever changing.

Everyone sounds have Powers of Attorney in place.

When we moved to our bungalow 7 yrs ago ( I was 68) but it wasn’t planned ( too young to plan ?)
As it turned out it could not be better for when we do get old. Providing I can still walk when I get to that old age we can walk to 2 doctors surgery’s, my dentist, 2 opticians, 2 supermarkets, a library, a small gym with a pool.
And the sea front.
I live in a wonderful close where we all care for one another.
I don’t know what to expect from the children as we’re still at the stage where we do stuff for them.