silverlining48
Just to clarify it is really not advisable to go it alone and place someone in residential care without first contacting social services fir a full assessment. Even if you pay the full rate you would then have security and some benefits not available to those who are just moved in by family.
We did just that twice, with my mother and my FiL, no SS input at all. TBH we didn’t see how anyone who had never met them before (since we’d never involved SS ) could understand their needs better than we did.
Especially since with strangers, people with dementia are often very good at what is called ‘hostess mode’ for short periods, i.e. giving a much better impression of how things are, than what the family see on a daily basis.
They were both self funded. We looked at many care homes for each of them before choosing, but the time and trouble taken was well worth it.
I don’t know what you mean about ‘having security’. There was never any question with either of them, of not having it. My mother was in her excellent care home (incidentally by no means the most expensive) for 8 years until she died at 97.
I don’t know what extra benefits you mean, either. They both already had Attendance Allowance, which we’d applied for some time previously.
