Care home refusing to cooperate

Glorianny

I think besides being overworked care staff also have to obtain the person's permission before they can move or do exercises with them. Sometimes the way they ask the question means that they will usually get a refusal. Then the old person may forget they have been asked and just say they haven't moved.

I agree about care homes. They are awful places.

Not all care homes are awful places. My Mum had a few months in one which was spotlessly clean but the staff were uninterested and uncaring. I looked at 14, turning up unannounced and some of them WERE awful. The better ones where I was allowed to talk to residents and where you could feel good vibes had waiting lists.

I can truthfully tell you that the last 3 years of my Mum’s life were spent in a care home where they all loved her, treated her with respect and were genuinely interested in her. I could go in whenever I liked, take her out, enjoy meals there with her etc. she had a lovely light, sunny room and enjoyed watching dog walkers and schoolchildren passing by. All the food was homecooked and I could never have looked after her 24/7 like they did.

Glorianny

I think besides being overworked care staff also have to obtain the person's permission before they can move or do exercises with them. Sometimes the way they ask the question means that they will usually get a refusal. Then the old person may forget they have been asked and just say they haven't moved.

I agree about care homes. They are awful places.

I have worked in my particular care home for over five years now and I can assure you it is not “an awful” place. We have a team of dedicated staff who really do care for our residents
and I can assure you we do not do it for the money!
Someone else was saying their relative was left in a wheelchair that is not the correct policy in our home at all, we transfer people with a wheelchair and then assist them to a comfortable chair..

I have personally had excellent HHS physio treatment after various bone breakages, and cannot praise them enough. In the first case, particularly, I had a nasty wrist fracture and the physio who was on duty when the external fixator was removed thought I might be left with little mobility in that wrist, but after lengthy treatment - with the same physio - my wrist is as good as new.

On the other hand, my mother was discharged from hospital to a care home, and we were told that physio would be given for 6 weeks by physios visiting the home - noone ever turned up, despite repeated requests from my brother.

So I wonder if their limited resources are prioritised for younger patients?

Hello,

I'm sorry to hear about the challenges your husband is facing. It sounds like a complex situation. Considering the hesitation in trying again, perhaps having a discussion with both the care home staff and NHS physios might offer insights. Express your concerns about the cautious approach and inquire about alternative strategies or assessments. Additionally, you may want to seek a second opinion from another healthcare professional to ensure all possible avenues are explored for your husband's comfort and well-being.

Wishing you and your husband the best during this time.