Kindness for hospitalized husband's wife

Macadia

my DH is not going to get out of hospital soon. He loves me so much that he has asked me to find someone to take care of me in case he is unable. How do I even move forward with that request?

I know how to move forward with that request: ignore it.
I don't need anyone to take care of ME.

Thank you "Poppysmum". It is a strange time indeed.

He had a spinal tap, lumbar puncture and they are thinking GBS or thiamine malsbsorption. He is currently on a Suicide Watch by my request.

I finally got to see him last night. I bathed him in a chair. I soaked his tired feet in two bucket and scrubbed his tired soles. I washed his beard, his face, his hair. I changed his bedding, changed his clothes. I moistuized his old skin and he said he feels like he must be a king.

my DH is not going to get out of hospital soon. He loves me so much that he has asked me to find someone to take care of me in case he is unable. How do I even move forward with that request?

Also it might be a reaction to his body not able to absorb thiamine.

Not heard of that but B vitamins are odd ones, aren't they.
I know a couple of people who have to have regular B12 injections.

I’m sure we do eddiecat78 but in the original post, Macadia said she simply wasn’t allowed time off and there was no mention of her profession - a dog sitting service.

People who have never been self employed don't seem to realise that if you don't work you don't get paid and if you let people down you probably won't be asked to work for them again

I think people are unsure what to do or say to be honest. I do hope you will soon get answers and can set your husband on the way to recovery. take care of yourself too

Thank you everyone for your concern but I am not suffering.(DH is).

Yes it might be GBS. Also it might be a reaction to his body not able to absorb thiamine. I was able to visit him today and it was so wonderful. I don't have an employer but work for myself taking care of people's dog while they go on holidays so I can't take time off when promised to be here. Now I have 3 days off. My DH will be home soon.

Thank you for your most kind and loving replies. I did not want anyone to think of me - I am fine - but to notice what my sister offered because a lot of times we want to help or don't know what to do and her kind offer hit it spot on so I only wanted to share with others this experience in hopes they take note and remember this if ever they find a dear friend in this situation. That's all.

Not wishing to frighten you, Macadia, the recovery rate for GuillanBarre Syndrome, if it should prove to be that, is good although progress might be slower in some than others.

Aldom

Whethertomorrow please note.... The OP is a regular poster.
It could be very upsetting for her to read what you have written. *GuillanBarre Syndrome*is a real
probability re sudden paralysis.

I do know of someon who suffered from a sudden paralysis after having the AstraZeneca Covid vaccine, the first one released. He had been a fit and active builder.
I met him at physiotherapy after he'd spent time in hospital.
We know another, older man, who suffered the same immediately after the vaccine.

Has your DH been vaccinated recently, * Macadia*?

Before anyone responds to me in a negative fashion I am not a conspiracy theorist nor an anti-vaxxer, having had some vaccines, but both cases gave me pause for thought.

Whethertomorrow please note.... The OP is a regular poster.
It could be very upsetting for her to read what you have written. *GuillanBarre Syndrome*is a real
probability re sudden paralysis.

Macadia’s lucky to have a kind sister. Sorry to hear about your husband

I was about to ask much the same as Sago. It’s a poor employer that doesn’t offer some compassionate or even unpaid leave. Perhaps the OP doesn’t have transport and he DH isn’t in a local hospital, but what about weekend visiting?

Very odd situation indeed, although kind of her Sister to help though.

Whetertomorrow this sounds like guillain barre syndrome and not made up at all. It’s very frightening but totally recoverable with time and work, although it’s not a given.
So please don’t be to quick to judge.

Macadia so sorry your situation sounds very frightening. What you need right now is tangible support. I’m glad you have it. I hope your husband recovers soon and you get answers about his illness so you know what you’re dealing with.

Macadia has posted on other threads.

I'm really sorry to hear this, Macadia but what kind of firm would not allow compassionate leave or flexible working t such a time? Can you approach them to find out?

Your sister is very kind, can she manage your job or will she need to be trained?

A worrying time for you, I hope they can get to the bottom of it.

Primrose53 for you and hope your DH is recovering.

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Is the hospital difficult to get to. Do you drive? Seems strange that you are not allowed to have time off in such circumstances. Surely you could leave early so you can get there. I would just tell them you can’t come in or have to leave early as you must see your dh. Also you need to see a doctor or whoever can give you up to date information. Your dh needs you..

Macadia I hope your DH makes a full recovery and your DH Primrose53 and you both get support from family and friends. The support is what keeps you going at difficult times and it means a lot when you need it.

What country are you in?
Why do you work all day and evening and are you not aware are employment laws.?

Macadia so sorry to read this and hope you get some positive news soon. Don’t you get any time off at weekends when you could visit? Your sister’s offer is a lovely gesture.

My husband is also in hospital (3 weeks today) following a bad stroke. I have had some lovely offers of help but so far we are managing but it is heartwarming that people offer.

Hope things improve soon. Xx