Aged mother in law

Don’t forget these care homes are a business and are in it for the money first & foremost

This is the stuff nobody talks about. I have been through it with one set of relatives and now it is being repeated with another.

Whilst this happens, your own life advances, the years roll by, the permanent state of stress becomes you.

Kind people become obsessed with food as some sort of marker that they are "doing something", the person is "picking up". The care home staff are covering their backs and terrified to say anything.

I recall one of them shoving crumble and custard into my mother as if she were an infant.

Its awful and anybody going through this I'm sorry.

Don’t forget these care homes are a business and are in it for the money first & foremost

Yes, most of them are businesses, but I can't see why it's good business to try to keep people who need lots of care alive when they could have someone much more able filling that space! Logic suggests a speedy death is best for the finances.

I just don't get how dragging a death out can help at all.

It's a tricky and upsetting scenario. We don't do death well in my experience.

Only one n ten of us are likely to end up in a care home.

I have twice had family members in a care home, one, a small local one, the second part of a chain and I cannot fault the care they received.