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Very unfair that Carers Allowance is not paid to pensioners

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Primrose53 Thu 27-Feb-25 22:37:30

I am now full time unpaid carer for my husband who suffered a severe stroke 3 months ago. We are both now in receipt of state pensions.

So what if I get my State Pension? I am now caring 24/7 and working harder than I ever have. It is totally exhausting. I really feel we are saving the govt millions and we should be paid something.

As far as I can see we get 6 weeks free “care workers” coming in and that’s it. We see different ones every day and only 2 have been any good. We were signed up for 4 visits a day but dropped the lunch time and tea time visits because they were no help at all.

We now get a visit any time between 7.30 and 10.30am where they help him get washed and dressed. That is all they do. They are usually here 15-20 minutes. Bedtime visit is anywhere between 5.30 and 9.30. Often we are still eating our evening meal when they arrive at 6.30 and they just stand there staring at us so we feel pressurised to get a move on.

They are not allowed to take their shoes off so often we get mud on the carpets, our door frames are getting bashed by them pushing wheelchairs and commodes too fast. It’s rush, rush all the time. Most don’t clear up after washing him so that’s more for me to do.

It is certainly no help for me and I have told their Manager we are very disappointed with the service from County Hall.

theworriedwell Thu 06-Mar-25 19:10:17

blue25

But carers allowance is for working age people to take into account they’re unable to work & earn a wage. If you’re retired anyway & getting a pension, the caring isn’t stopping you from working.

We can’t be giving out benefits to everyone. It’s why we all need to save as much as possible to pay for things like this in old age.

It isnt for a particular age group, it is for carers who earn below a certain figure or aren't in receipt of a pension.

PamelaJ1 Sun 09-Mar-25 08:40:21

kittylester

Pamela contact AgeUk.

Thank you kitty, I did and they wer3 very helpful.

kittylester Sun 09-Mar-25 12:31:52

Thanks for the update. Glad they were helpful.

I volunteer with AgeUk and always get such positive feed back.

JaneJudge Sun 09-Mar-25 13:49:27

theworriedwell flowers are you getting any respite at all?

theworriedwell Mon 10-Mar-25 11:51:46

JaneJudge

theworriedwell flowers are you getting any respite at all?

I've started to give myself one evening a week
Eldest GS comes round to keep him company and sort out food I've left. He hates me not being there. Yesterday was miserable and I had a cry and thought I can't do this any more. Can't walk out though. The last real break was a ten day holiday with DD which was 16 or 17 years ago.

theworriedwell Mon 10-Mar-25 11:52:56

I'm being a misery, sorry.

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 10-Mar-25 13:33:19

theworriedwell, you have every right to feel miserable. I hope that you can arrange for more respite.
Your health- physical and emotional- is important.
Sending you best wishes.

theworriedwell Mon 10-Mar-25 16:01:35

Chocolatelovinggran

theworriedwell, you have every right to feel miserable. I hope that you can arrange for more respite.
Your health- physical and emotional- is important.
Sending you best wishes.

Thank you.

JaneJudge Mon 10-Mar-25 20:55:07

You aren’t being a misery, you are isolated and exhausted. How you feel is normal thanks
We need to help you make a plan so you can get more support x

Ward Tue 08-Apr-25 08:45:35

What is Carers Allowance , can i claim this as a Carer if i get attendance allowance for myself . I am a full time carer for a dementia relative . Finding it extremely hard , like everyone else . Not alot of help out there .

Ward Tue 08-Apr-25 08:49:03

Sorry think i have written this on someone elses chat So sorry .

Ward Tue 08-Apr-25 08:52:24

I am in a very similar position . So so hard to keep positive .
Thankyou for sharing it helps to know there are others to share with . Please stay positive , I will think about you today .

kittylester Tue 08-Apr-25 11:34:55

Ward

What is Carers Allowance , can i claim this as a Carer if i get attendance allowance for myself . I am a full time carer for a dementia relative . Finding it extremely hard , like everyone else . Not alot of help out there .

Please contact AgeUk or the Alzheimer's Society for help with accessing all the benefits to which you are entitled. For instance, the person living with dementia may be entitled to a council tax reduction

Unless the claim was made for a condition of yours, Attendance Allowance is for the benefit of the person living with dementia not the carer.

RubyRoobs Sun 20-Jul-25 15:41:39

theworriedwell

I don't understand why people keep posting about attendance allowance. The OP is questioning why she, as a carer, can't get carers allowance. Attendance allowance would be something her husband can claim for himself but why shouldn't she get something as a carer that is paid to carers?

Exactly. Attendance Allowance is claimed by the disabled person not by the carer.
A person who is state pension age who is also a carer cannot claim carers allowance if their state pension is more than the carers allowance amount but if providing 35 hours care they can be awarded what is called an underlying entitlement to carers allowance which can give a carers premium on other means tested benefits if , as a couple they are eligible.