Very unfair that Carers Allowance is not paid to pensioners

PS. Our cares now are like friends. I’m very grateful for all they do.

Sorry to hear your husband is so ill PrimroseI’ve been a full time carer for my husband for the last five years so I fully understand your concerns and frustration with the situation. It’s exhausting physically and mentally trying to organise and train carers in the way you want your loved one cared for.

As others have said get all the benefits you are entitled to this help make the load a bit lighter for you and for your husband.
I use AA for all the jobs he used to do. Gardening cleaning the car, washing bins and I now have a cleaner for the house too. Anything that helps take a bit of strain from yourself.

Speak to the carers and direct them as to how you want your husband managed and a conversation with the management team …again….as to times etc is perhaps needed.

The foot covering is a good idea I thought.

I’m in Scotland and get financial help through Self Directed Support. This enables me to have over twenty hours care in the week.My husband would be in a home without this help.

I do hope things settle down for you both.

I think you are missing out on allowances Primrose ask your GP to send you a social worker you will be surprised at what you can get to help you both in money and in appliances
Please don’t be so down on the carers they are rushing though traffic to get from placement to a placement it’s not an easy job they are only allowed a certain amount of time fr each so perhaps do have to rush
Six Weeks free care really is a generous offer for most people

I think you are understandably very ‘down’ at the recent change of events and you may need some help yourself Life is not a bowl of cherries when illness takes over but help is out there you just need to find it and that can be difficult
Good luck Primrose

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I wonder if the carers have a supply of disposable over shoes to wear which would protect your carpets from mud?

I’m not unsympathetic Primrose I know from previous posts that you’ve really been through the mill due to your DH’s stroke and hospitalization. You sound very frustrated with your situation Primrose and perhaps it will take time to adjust to things and accept that the future is not what you had planned. (I speak from personal experience).

I’m sort of wondering what you expect the carers to do, considering they have strict guidelines to follow? What reason did you find only 2 any good, with enough reason to complain about the others. They aren’t nurses, cleaners, or cooks but carers - their job is simply to care for your DH. Unless you too are disabled, it’s expected that you are able to help your DH too, (I used to work for my LA’s home help service). A single person would probably welcome lunch and tea time visits, as social contact, to help toilet and to make a cup of tea, but I guess you’ve found that unnecessary. My friend advised her Mum to have her main meal, something simple usually bought in for the carer to present at lunchtime rather than in the evening. It’s unfortunate that times are so flexible, but sometimes that’s the nature of the beast and often location plays a big part if carers have a number of people to attend to there. It sounds as though you are having ‘free service’ for six weeks, but you might then want to approach a private agency where you could stipulate times.

I hope things soon settle down into some sort of routine that meets your DH’s needs. Please don’t think I’m criticizing.
Like other posters, I hope your DH is in receipt of AA or in the process of applying for it.

Having had a severe stroke would guarantee your DH gets the full AA. I got mine within 6 weeks, but I have at least three medical conditions, one being Macular Degeneration, which automatically qualified me.

Your husband would definitely be eligible for Attendance Allowance and if you perhaps also have a disability you could claim it as well. If you contact your local Citizens Advice or Age Uk they will help you to complete the form . Alternatively go on to .gov.uk and search for how to claim Attendance Allowance. I hope this helps.

It's because Carer’s Allowance is an “income replacement” benefit for people who are unable to work because they are caring full-time for a disabled person. That’s why it’s considered an overlapping benefit with the State Pension.

Has attendance allowance Bern applied for

Primrose - I don’t know much about these things but isn’t there something called Disability Living Allowance ? Glad you have complained about those carers. There are always bad apples. Hopefully, they will be replaced by good caring people.
Sorry to hear about your husband.

I'm sorry to hear of your situation, Primrose. I agree that it seems unfair that you are excluded because of your age, although Casdon has suggested that you might get a different allowance.

Have you spoken to Age UK? They should be able to put you in touch with the relevant people and advise about what your entitlements might be.

Are you aware that your husband can claim attendance allowance Primrose53? My mum gets it, and it pays for her to have a carer to get her up in the morning? She is very happy with the service provided by the agency used by her local council, but it can be used for private care as well, or for other things that make life more comfortable.