Just a little self-indulgent weep

teabagwoman

PS. Your weep is definitely not self indulgent.

No, it's not.
It will make you feel better to let it out.

Give the rose a manure mulch and 🤞 it will grow back even better next year.

Oh CarrotTop you have every right to feel sad.
I hope that your rose recovers.

Oh Carrottop I’m sorry. Some days are just the last straw. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

After our gazebo collapsed I thought I’d have to lose two climbing roses, one I was very find of, the other a newer rose had a wonderful scent. After a tear or two both were cut almost to the ground with the intention of digging out the roots. The next Spring our favourite was covered in new shoots, we left it and its very vigorous again, full of blooms this year. The other one tried, I was less fond of that so out it came but I’m sure that would also have thrived if left alone.

Don't despair, carrottop, with luck your rose will be back next spring. Totally understand the tears , I was the same when the gazebo collapsed.

Sending you a hug and positive thoughts that your Rose will survive. They are such resilient plants and often benefit from a hard prune. Some good advice regarding propagation. Pleased that you’re feeling more cheerful. 🌹

CarrotTop, my heart goes out to you.
I find a good cry alone somewhere, usually the bathroom, does help.
Is not self indulgent, is a safety valve.
Sending a big hug and wish I could make you a cuppa ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

You are allowed that self indulgent weep! Knowing your DH can't help it does not ease the situation for you - I understand that only too well as I care for my husbaand and we negotiate his Alzheimers Disease.
I am no rose expert but you have been given some great advice, fingers crossed 🤞 your lovely rose will bounce back.
🌹

Magenta8 I think our husbands must be related lol . Everything's a weed

I'm passing you a tissue 🤧 and sending a hug . I'm sure it's just the last straw for you . You love your husband and you know he can't help it but that doesn't protect you from the grief of so much that caring has and is causing you .
My other half hacks everything back , recently did it to two buxos in pots I'd bought for either side of my front door . I was fuming, and he's got no health issue to blame it on other than getting carried away with the clippers. They're now dead and he's insisting they'll come back . They're as dead as dead can be . I felt like howling , they weren't cheap .
I sympathise , I hope the rose comes back 🙏 and I hope things get easier . You're allowed to cry every now and again 😢

When we first moved into our first house from a one bedroom first floor flat I was very happy to have a garden for the first time.

As I worked shifts, I was off during the week while my DH was at work. Full of enthusiasm, I spent ages clearing a border. I dug it over thoroughly and planted a selection of perennials I had bought earlier that day.

The next day was a Saturday and my husband, who was not a keen gardener, announced that he was going to do some work in the garden as it was still pretty untidy. I told him I had made a start on one of the borders. When I came home from work he remarked that I hadn't done a very good job on the border as it was still full of weeds. He had pulled up all my perennials, put them on the compost heap and then covered them with cuttings from the various shrubs and bushes he had pruned back. He was never let loose in the garden unsupervised again.

I must admit I did brush back a tear.

Oh no!

Sending you big huge hug 🤗🤗🤗

I pruned a rose a couple of years ago very hard back and kept the clippings to pot up by just putting in the soil in a tub. NB .the right way up. And now have a small new rose bush in the tub and the actual bush grows back very strong each year.

I was always frightened of doing the wrong thing to roses, but my goodness the one I have is a hardy monster with beautiful scented blooms grown from cuttings from my late best friend's rose bush.
I hope yours does well next year and try planting the cuttings.

I'd also use it as an excuse to go and buy a new rose, or order a bare root one as once planted these do very well. The good online sites give excellent descriptions and details of size. (Peterbealesroses.com, davidaustinroses.co.uk, ashridgetrees.co.uk, roses.co.uk)

teabagwoman

PS. Your weep is definitely not self indulgent.

I second that.

So sorry that you have this burden to bear. Sometimes it is things like a rose being hacked to pieces that really gets to us.

And it doesn't really help to know that he cannot help doing this sort of thing, does it?

It is hard to love the person a loved one has turned into, so come back next time it all gets on top of you.

That is what we are here for.

Misotapetist

If your DH chopped a climbing rose, yes that is a big loss, however if he chopped any other type of rose he probably did you a favour. I do sympathise.

Yes.

I'm an enthusiastic pruner, not every year, but it does seem to do some roses good. As long as a bud is left on the stem, with a bit of luck it should be fine. It's a bit early because ours are still flowering and have more flower buds too.

As for the climbers, perhaps a no more gentle prune is better, but ours are growing so high I might be tempted to hack them more than usual.

My late mum was a fantastic gardener and always pruned roses to within an inch of their lives! They always came back beautifully.

Oh gosh that’s a shame you have my empathy

Misotapetis, yes it is a climbing rose, which I bought for £1.50 from the "almost dead" section of a garden centre years ago. A second look this afternoon has revealed one solitary climbing stem, which looks like a sucker but has grown up through surrounding shrubs. So it may come back after all! Thanks too for the tips on propagating from cuttings. I didn't know that! Feeling much more cheerful, thanks to everyone.

That must be hard, sorry you are upset. If you protect your rose as best you can from frost die back, either with fleece or a cloche, it should be okay I think.

PS. Your weep is definitely not self indulgent.

Sending a huge virtual hug and hoping that those who are optimistic about the rose’s survival are right.

I have a climbing rose in the garden that was planted before we moved here 34 years ago.
Several times I've cut it right down to a few inches high and every time it's grown again.
I've done it again recently as it had got out of hand and was awash with honeysuckle growing through it.
I'm quietly confident they'll both be back next year 🤞🏻

(My husband is forbidden to touch anything in the garden, but he will put a heap of my prunings through the shredder).

If your DH chopped a climbing rose, yes that is a big loss, however if he chopped any other type of rose he probably did you a favour. I do sympathise.

Grab the cuttings, ideally with a woody base, strip off some of the lower leaves, ideally cover the twig with rooting hormone (seaweed) pop in some compost, then pop the entire thing pot and all into SEALED clear plastic bags, keep warm, moist and with sunlight, and they should root. Now is the BEST time to root woody cuttings. Roses root well. Thank hubby for all the new rose plants! Alternatively, go to a garden centre and treat yourself to a new rose! (Harkness Roses much better than David Austin.) Best wishes.

Oh what a shame. I'm so sorry to hear about your poor wee rose. Maybe it'll storm back all the better next season.