Boasting alert!

Thanks everyone for the lovely thoughts,Nonu it will not be soon as DS2 likes everything to be just so and he will not want to rush things if he can't afford to do it just as she wants so they are going to save for a while and maybe get themselves into a small house before the big day.GA so right in your post about being the right one I remember when I first met DDs X and he had a big flashing light above his head as if to say to me "I am trouble" and he was.Nothing though is going to stop me being chuffed to bits about this I still feel on cloude nine,mr.g. and I are out for lunch next week with her GPs they are nice people they have raised her since she was a baby and they are as excited as we are.

Congratulations, Glamma - I have noticed how often one engagement or wedding in a family triggers another!

Glammanana

What great news , When are they getting married ?

[flowers , flowers]

greatnan thats fab news . you have every right to be very proud xx

Glamma Such happy news. Lots to think about. Let's hear about your choice of outfit, when you reach a decision. I love talking fashion. Have you seen my outfit in my photos. It's a long way down the page. Hat is now wrapped in tissue. I hope to wear it when the first of my granddaughters marries.

glamma fantastic news, you will enjoy "the new at" or two.

That's really lovely news, glamma! Heartwarming and exciting too!

Glamma having just had the excitement of our son's wedding I understand your happiness; it's a great relief when you feel you can genuinely celebrate your loved ones choice of partner.

Greatnan what excellent news - like everyone else, I'd be boasting too. And, in tune with other GNs' thoughts, don't let the problems with your other daughter spoil your joy.

And glamma how lovely for you all! We'll stand by to talk about hats.

Its been ages since we used this thread so I am going to have a big big boast,my super handsome DS2 has popped the question to his delightful girlfriend on Monday evening and she said YES !!!
Yesterday I spent the day very tearful (in a lovely way) and delighted for them she is a lovely girl who I knew was right for him from the day I met her,THE RING is a stunning diamond solitaire on a traditional gold band and really suits her as she is so petite and dainty.Massive saving spree on the way now as I am sure as eggs are eggs DS1s girl will want to follow suit and as Cilla Black says "a new 'at" is on the horizon.

I definitely would be boasting too. It's nice when they do well and you feel that you had some influence through their lives. Well done!

Yes,I know that is good advice. I can't stay in contact with the three children who still live with her, as they have all blocked me on Facebook. I will be sending a birthday present to the remaining daugher's little girl next month. I will send a card to the others on their birthdays.

I'd be boasting too, that's brilliant

What wonderful news Greatgran

Stop letting your daughter in England 'yank' your chain. All the time she is able to do this ...you are giving her a lot of satisfaction ...let it go. When she's had enough of the silence ...then she will, perhaps, re-assess what she has lost. Stay in touch with her children so that they know you are around if and when they wish to contact you ...meanwhile, wrap yourself in the warmth and achievements of you NZ family

I have stopped lying awake all night thinking of what to say to her - I didn't mention her very far-fetched accusations in my card, as she was so obviously delusional again. She has made some pretty bad mistakes in her parenting - always under the influence of drugs - but I wouldn't dream of listing them. I feel that parenting is the only thing she can pride herself on and there is no way I would take that away from her.

Fabulous news greatnan what an absolute fantastic achievement. Just keep the doors open for your daughter I found when DD was 18/19 and she cut herself off with 1st partner she dug her heels in further with every commumication that I made,she will in time come around and get in touch again until then just take care of yourself .

Well done to her.

Great news Greatnan!

What wonderful news and what an achievement Greatnan.

Congratulations Greatnan's GD when you find a good nurse, reward them and keep them

greatnan how proud of your New Zealand family you must feel, congratulations. Don't feel responsible for your other daughter's choices- she made them and you have done your very best to forge a relationship with her. We all make mistakes in life, perhaps you did make some, but I have no doubt you have done all you possibly could to make amends. Her rejection of you is her loss.

Congratulations from me too for your granddaughter's success! Well done her. You've every right to boast and be proud.

Maybe, just maybe, all the vibes from all the grans on GN who know the story of your other daughter, will one day get through.

Greatnan how nice that your NZ family are doing so well and have such a fulfilling life.

You've done your absolute best for your other daughter and you cannot control her behaviour.
Sometimes you just have to draw a line underneath and move on.

You deserve to relax and enjoy the rest of your life without beating yourself up.

I have sent a card to my daughter in England, just saying how much I love her, that I am sorry that she did not feel loved all her life and that I regret the mistakes I made in my mothering. I do accept that there were a few years in her mid teens when I was going through a divorce and then when I took them both to live with me in Monaco when I 'took my eye off the ball' of motherhood. She has frequently told me that she felt that I did not care about her and although I have spent 30 years trying to make amends I fear that her subsequent difficulties with her weight and her addictions stem from those early years.
If she does not reply to my card, I will just have to accept that I have lost her, but her eldest daughter still comments on my Facebook page, so the door is not completely shut. I will be seeing her at her cousin's wedding in August - I will just give her a big hug and not mention her mother's letter at all.