What's your Bucket List of to do's before you die?

No, Gaga, fortunately my other daughter is very loving and close, even though she lives in New Zealand, and so are her six children. It was her suggestion, and her husband's, that I should go and live in a cottage in their garden. She has also been cut off by her sister and nephews and one niece. My estranged daughter's eldest daughter remains a friend on FaceBook - the other three blocked me - but she says she does not want to get involved .
I sent a very loving letter to my daughter about six weeks ago, and got back another eight pages of malice in return. There is nothing I can do and nobody who is willing to help. She has no friends (she always found it hard to make friends, unlike her sister, who has kept her friends from childhood) and her three children who still live with her (Aged 28, 21 and 16) either believe her monstrous accusations or they are just afraid to disobey her. She is supporting all of them financially.

I hope for good health to carry DH and I into 'very' old age and to travel whilst still able to , i.e. get insurance, walk, remember etc.
Would like to see Argentina, Iguassu Falls, Vietnam and Cambodia, among other long hauls and then start discovering nearer to home.....we are so lucky to have beautiful places in Europe as well as in our own country.
I could go on and on but I might bore you all!

After spending half my life in foreign country - a country which I now love dearly- I am no longer interested in travelling. What I have not yet seen I can leave unseen.
I have outlived all my family who all died in their 60s so I'm quite happy to continue and hope DH and I make it for a while longer. I don't want any stress about doing things I've not yet done.

Live for the day that is my maxim. I can't imgine how it must be to be wishing months and years away waiting to go somehwere else years in advance.
Saving up for Xmas in July and even buying presents.

So there is nothing on my list at all.

Why is it a bucket list? This has puzzled me for ages.

Before you 'kick the bucket', kitty! Remember the film with Jack Nicholson?

greatnan I echo all that has been said. I can't 'understand' as it hasn't happened to me but I can empathise as something similar has.

I really have written a bucket list and it includes mostly small, easy to do, things I haven't got round to yet like going to the Thursday morning coffee morning! Ticked one off yesterday by going to the Eden Project. Next big one is walking the Inca Trail, I really must do that next year, too busy this.
So many things to do and so little time, I had no idea retirement would be this busy!

I've been fannying around, trying to write for too long - did an OU course in creative writing and did well, but best story got rejected.
So this is on my bucket list:
Get something (anything) published
Apart from that, I just want to live from day to day, taking advantage of the good days and surviving through the bad ones, with a lot of help from GN.

Write to the Malvern Gazette Annobel they seem to publish anything and eveerything on their letter page! Oh maybe that is not what you meant!

Yes write to your local paper-the Editor of ours told me he enjoyed my rants
I mean well thought out diatribes.

I've done plenty of Letters to the Editor in the past, but am in the process of giving up politics - huh, a likely story!

I'm living my bucket list.

Butter to want what you have, as opposed to have what you want = happiness

To visit the Vatican museum again

And the Athens museum

And the Naples museum

And the British museum!

Take one day at a time; stop worrying about everything - it does no good and just wears you out; spend wisely and not with gay abandon as before; take delight in the small things, which very often get forgotten; enjoy the moment; try and finish knitting the matinee jacket I began 8 years ago for Grandson 1 in time for grandchild 8 ; visit friends not seen for years; join something to get me through the winter; make a list of 'to do's' and not lose it; plus lots more ........

It's been about 20 years since my eldest daughter (now 43) decided she no longer wanted to know me or any of the rest of her family. There have been one or two meetings in all that time when walking on glass shards is the only way to describe them.

I have just had an e-mail from her saying she is 5 months pregnant by donor. She wrote that after a relationship foundered when she was 39 and she would dearly wanted a child, she grasped this last slither of hope to be a mother and all is going well. She also wrote that she would like me to to be part of her life now, and for me to be an active grandmother to her baby, and that any previous issues should be forgotten. I have no idea what issues there were to create such a long and painful rift, and although her news filled me with elation, it also filled me with fear that I would be going back into a dark place that was so painful.

Has anyone else faced this dilemma. I am depressed to find that this mother's love is not unconditional.

Everyone deserves a second chance, perhaps she has mellowed now her own baby is due soon. Why don't you arrange to meet. What have you got to lose, sometimes there are happy endings. Hope things work out for you.

mewsmuse How very confusing! I think all you can do is take it one day at a time and draw a line under whatever happened. Perhaps she has just come to realise what she has been missing and has ditched her pride to contact you. It must have been hard for her after such a long time so just let it all go, no recriminations and enjoy.

I think there will be some GNs who would wish to have the same situation.

What heart-warming news mewsmuse. Take the opportunty and make the best of it, rather than mull over the past. If you fear returning to painful memories, perhaps you can make an agreement at some point that you will both try to keep things positive and focus on this baby and how you can enjoy being mother and grandmother together. You have some happy times ahead, it seems

mewsmuseI think we understand our own parents better, when we become parents ourselves. Maybe that's the reason for the change of heart - being on the way to parenthood.

I'd go with the flow and hope for the best.
Good luck!

Anyway - Bucket List:
Have a holiday in England and see an archaeological dig.
Finish my play.
Finish my novel.
Be a more successful gardener.
Get my hair right.
Read the Russian classics (in English of course - I'm not a masochist)

Well, that's about it - I thought the list would be longer but can't think of owt else.

To own the hope diamond!

To find out what the hell a 'bucket list' is...

feetle its all the things you want to do befoe you kick the bucket!