Do you have purpose in your life?

Purpose in life? Well, some days I don't think there is but on better days I try to look to the future and imagine what I will be doing one year down the line from where I am right now; quite difficult to imagine really. I try to concentrate on my daughters and grandchildren, but you can't live your life through them; I am doing all kinds of things I never had to do before which, in itself is quite liberating but frightening at the same time. I think I am aiming at being not lonely and not sad, waiting for the day when I can wake up and look back with happiness and forward with anticipation and hope

Oh Hilda sorry life is feeling so tricky for you at the moment. Is there anyone you could do things with? I find I have to be very proactive in organising my 'free' time otherwise I discover I have a day to myself and nothing particular planned and find that can get me down.

I went to a 'managing your retirement' seminar and that suggested using a diary and putting something small down everyday and doing it! e.g read 4 chapters of book, walk to the park. Just small things but making yourself do it. I have found that helps me to get a structure and keep busy..less time to think.

Good luck.

Must admit this subject does trouble me a bit......am still in a bit of a mental no man's land having come out of a bit too much stress than I can now cope with (was a lot better at it once but am now not). Have tried to get a bit of support from GP for the way I feel but think its just going to be a fact of life from now on. The trouble is that it leaves me feeling 'whats the point' a lot and that means I waste so much time doing 'what ifs' etc. Deep down I should do more but the fear of messing up and being a laughing stock is very real to me at the moment.
I have two lovely GC and two wonderful daughters but somedays even the thought of them is not enough to shake me up to actually do more than go through the motions.
What gets me is that if I manage to push myself out of the door...walk the dog etc then I feel a lot better but its that initial step. I do have a sweet other half but hes not got much clue how I feel really. If I'm quiet and withdrawn he seems to feel he should keep out of my way till I snap out.
Then of course I write this down and a voice says 'what have you got to moan about?'......many worse off, it just makes me cross that I dont push myself, but its like living in a state of fear really.

Stay alive!

Probably not – I'm a shocking drifter. I'm certainly not useful.

Being a mum and grandma.

Love. My love for my family & friends and life/ world in general! The love that I have from my family and friends.

My granddaughter .