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Butternut Sun 01-Jul-12 22:06:12

jeni - Oh - and a {{hug}} ....smile

Butternut Sun 01-Jul-12 22:04:37

And love to you, too, jeni. I admire you tenacity. sunshine

Learnergran Sun 01-Jul-12 22:04:12

Yes, Greatnan, I know that you are not lonely, and I agree that there is a world of difference between "alone" and "lonely". I just meant that for many of us it is hard to admit to ourselves, let alone others, that often our lives are lonely and that the company of someone such as you describe so well would make such a difference.
It is easy to make light comments, or to sympathise with others, but hard to say that you have problems too.
I have been trying for some days to say that my DH has been diagnosed with cancer but my thoughts are so jumbled, and I do not seem to be able to form a coherent thought let alone express it.
It helps that there are people who do manage to share their thoughts - reading them makes people like me feel less alone.

jeni Sun 01-Jul-12 22:00:52

I am lonely now! But I fill up my time.
It's 9years since Peter died and on the whole I've managed to cope.
Being disabled as well doesn't make life easier.

Sorry folks don't know why I'm so blue this evening, apart from the fact I was discussing sailing with the outlaws yesterday at GDDs 1st party and it took me back to our sailing years

I'm at work tomorrow! And the rest of the week. So won't have time to feel sorry for myself!

Or probably to post

Love to you all!

Greatnan Sun 01-Jul-12 21:46:42

Thank you, Learnergran - I am not lonely, even though I live alone. I love my freedom. If I had met the kind of man I wanted in my 40's and 50's I might well have decided to compromise, but as I didn't, in spite of very many relationships, I made a very satisfying life for myself here in France.
However, I am looking forward to living in New Zealand, in my daugher's garden, in about three years because we get on so well and enjoy the same things.

Learnergran Sun 01-Jul-12 21:32:14

I meant about loneliness.

Learnergran Sun 01-Jul-12 21:29:38

Sorry, I meant Greatnan.
And Jeni too of course.
Those of us who find it difficult to come clean are grateful to those who do, so we know we are not alone.

Learnergran Sun 01-Jul-12 21:27:12

Thank you for sharing that Jeni flowers
It would be good to know there are a few of those around.

jeni Sun 01-Jul-12 20:40:08

Sounds like my late husband! (almost) he wasn't quite that perfect, but almost. I'm missing him!

Greatnan Sun 01-Jul-12 20:21:06

This is a poem I wrote before I gave up completely on men.

If I had a god (which I don't)
And I thought he would answer a prayer
(Which he won't),
I would ask for a mate,
Meaning both lover and friend,
Confidant, critic and all.
What would he be, this dream mate?
Warm and funny, of course,
Clever and kind.
Thinking I'm right when I'm wrong,
But, most of all, strong.

The strong can be gentle and kind
But they don't make demands
They think their own thoughts
They know their own minds.
They can take alternative views
Without losing face -
They give in with grace.

The strong approve of themselves
They don't need another's belief.
They handle their grief
With dignity, courage and calm.
They don't look for balm.

I'll never look up to a man -
That isn't my style,
But looking across would be nice
Once in a while.
Are you listening, god, whatever you are?
You know I won't settle for less,
So do what you can,
Send me a man.