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Does your OH wear a wedding ring

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Greatnan Fri 13-Jul-12 11:04:08

Interesting discussion on The Wright Stuff about whether men should wear a wedding ring. Doesn't affect me, of course, but I wondered if you agree with Matthew Wright that men who won't wear a ring are not ready to signal that they are 'off the market'!
I wear an engagement ring on my left hand ring finger - it used to save me getting hassled when that was still a problem and now it is just a habit.

tanith Fri 13-Jul-12 11:13:31

My husband has always worn his wedding ring from the day we married 17yrs ago he's proud to wear it. It doesn't bother me whether he does or he doesn't but its important to him. My grandson who has only been married a week fully intends to not wear his ring when he's working as its a hazard in the building trade , he said his new wife isn't bothered about it.
I do wear my wedding ring but its more because its important to my husband than myself..

nanaej Fri 13-Jul-12 11:24:46

We both wear rings.. DD1 and her DH had matching rings made which they wore on right hand for years before they chose to marry. Now they have wedding rings too!

Elegran Fri 13-Jul-12 11:39:01

Dh wore a signet ring with our entwined initials on for 49 years, until he died this spring. Now I wear it. The initials are worn, but the ring fits me perfectly.

Butternut Fri 13-Jul-12 11:43:16

Elegran smile

Nonu Fri 13-Jul-12 11:58:42

Yes he does , as indeed does my son and SIL

petallus Fri 13-Jul-12 12:06:52

I hardly ever wear my wedding ring.

GoldenGran Fri 13-Jul-12 12:09:32

My DH does wear a ring, but my ex never did and I have noticed he doesn't second time round either. I love the fact that this one wanted to,it felt like commitment,after years of being married to a love rat- although I don't expect every one do wear one, it felt right for us.

glammanana Fri 13-Jul-12 12:13:22

petallus you are like me I hardly ever wear my rings I have the reason being that you don't need a ring to show commitment,but DH has always worn his since we married.

absentgrana Fri 13-Jul-12 12:31:01

Mr absent works mainly with his hands (and his brain, of course) so wearing a ring would be extremely hazardous. You can rip off a finger when a ring catches in things. I wear what we call the badge of ownership on my left hand.

vampirequeen Fri 13-Jul-12 12:32:14

My husband got a ring the same time as I did when we got engaged but after a couple of years it began to cause a rash (wasn't gold) so he stopped wearing it and we never bothered to replace it. When we got married I used my engagement ring as my wedding ring so we never bought traditional wedding rings.

janepearce6 Fri 13-Jul-12 13:11:34

Why so much made of this today? James O'Brien on LBC took an hour to cover it too - its much of a fashion thing now, whereas when I got married in 1958, no man around that I knew wore one, my father-in-law didn't, my father didnt, brother didn't, but now my son does and as do so many! I think it's very much a mixture of class and fashion now - do what you want to do...... We are becoming much more of a classless society, thank goodness - non-u - you never hear nowadays, very much a rather unpleasant reminder of what one used to hear the whole time!! Men sometimes wore signet rings with the family crest on - my father and husband both had them and with my rather lefty attitude, it sits in my jewellery box! The burglars took all mine before the signet ring arrived!

gkal Fri 13-Jul-12 13:55:21

I'm divorced but my ex-OH always wore a wedding ring. I think either both should or neither should.

Mishap Fri 13-Jul-12 15:17:29

Yes he does - initially he said he did not want one, so I bought him a wedding "gift" of two smart shirts (we were both students then, so this was a VERY big deal); but then, a few weeks before the wedding, he decided that he did want one, so I forked out for it - and he has worn it every day since (41 years).

mrshat Fri 13-Jul-12 16:50:32

Yes, he does - never takes it off so it almost embedded now after 41 years - I, on the other hand remove mine every night and as my fingers are inclined to 'swell' from time to time I only wear it when comfortable! hmm

ClaraB Fri 13-Jul-12 17:28:55

Yes, we both do and never take them off. We've been married for 29 years and have upgraded both rings due to the fact that when we got married we bought the cheapest there was as we didn't have a bean in those days.

goldengirl Fri 13-Jul-12 17:30:32

I do but DH doesn't and never has. My father wore one until he nearly ripped his finger off climbing through a window!!!!

granjura Fri 13-Jul-12 17:38:10

Yes he does - like Gkal, I'd say either both do, or none.

numberplease Fri 13-Jul-12 17:41:30

No, he always said that in his engineering job it would catch on things. He`s not the type to wear a ring, or any other jewellery though.

Anagram Fri 13-Jul-12 17:52:01

I don't agree that both should or neither should. Most women want to wear one, but many men work in industries where it would be hazardous to wear one, or don't like jewellery anyway. Surely it's only in the last 40 years or so that it's become the norm for men to wear them? I know my father and grandfathers didn't.

numberplease Fri 13-Jul-12 17:52:19

Think the romance is waning though, 49th wedding anniversary today, apart from opening the 2 cards we got, nothing`s been said!

jeni Fri 13-Jul-12 18:13:29

number my late oh was an electrical engineer and said the same. Very few engineers do wear rings I've noticed

merlotgran Fri 13-Jul-12 18:18:29

Mr. Merlot has never worn one for the same reason, number and jeni. I don't think many men worried about wedding rings in the sixties.

harrigran Fri 13-Jul-12 18:27:11

DH took his off when it got too tight, I had it made bigger and also bought a new one but he only wears it when he is going out socially. I can't say anything because I only wear mine when going out too.

Learnergran Fri 13-Jul-12 18:34:46

Hope you had a good anniversary today anyway, number! flowers