Nosila, you are very welcome and I am quite sure any advice any of us give is meant for anybody who can use it.
I had to fight my headmaster to stop his very strict attitude towards my classes, (the remedial stream) , many of whom came from chaotic homes and had to get themselves ready for school and sometimes look after younger children as well. One boy came in looking dreadful and when I asked what had happened he said he and his mother had had to sleep in a bus shelter because the drunken father had thrown them out. I got the canteen to give him a hot breakfast, then took him to the Head to ask if he could sleep in the sick room for a few hours. The Head, who had only taught previously in a Christian Brothers grammar school, looked at him and said 'Where's your tie, Jones?' I got my way about the sick room, though and gave the Head the benefit of my experience with the sort of children he had never encountered in his ivory tower. I met that attitude very often, even being asked 'Why do you do remedial work, can't you get a better job?'
Yes, I agree, there are still plenty of overbearing teachers around.