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Do you ever feel intimidated?

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Nanadogsbody Fri 12-Oct-12 14:04:39

I'm creating this thread reluctantly but I do have to say that I've been considering leaving GN.

Elegran Sat 13-Oct-12 16:17:10

Heaven forbid! All those monstrous egos and feuding minorities.

Not like dear Gransnet!

jeni Sat 13-Oct-12 16:25:15

confused

Elegran Sat 13-Oct-12 16:38:55

Jeni that was a reply to anno

jeni Sat 13-Oct-12 16:42:40

grin

absentgrana Sat 13-Oct-12 17:24:52

No nanadogs I think you have crossed a line. Goodbye.

soop Sat 13-Oct-12 17:27:57

absent An arm around your shoulder.

Bags Sat 13-Oct-12 17:29:55

Mine too, absent.

jeni Sat 13-Oct-12 17:33:37

And mine!

Faye Sat 13-Oct-12 17:45:10

If that is not ganging up and cliquey I don't know what is. angry

Bags Sat 13-Oct-12 17:55:59

No, faye. It's open support for someone who is being intimidated. I was shocked by the trio of hawks reference.

Butternut Sat 13-Oct-12 17:56:41

It's friendship, Faye.

baubles Sat 13-Oct-12 18:05:07

I've just caught up with this thread. Nanadogsbody I think you've gone too far, that remark was completely uncalled for.

absent flowers

Faye Sat 13-Oct-12 18:06:11

Go back and retread some other posts and threads baggy and you will see when nanadb was new on here and more recently. She did not start this thread for no reason. I think it is best to completely ignore people who get at you and just don't answer them. AlisonM and others have been treated the same way. I have been astounded at some previous comments on many threads, I can point it out next time it happens, if you can't see it.

Faye Sat 13-Oct-12 18:07:51

It's cliquey baubles

petallus Sat 13-Oct-12 18:08:44

I've read through the last few threads because I am somewhat baffled. Is absent feeling intimidated because of the trio of hawks joke?

If so, why? Does absent think she is one of the hawks? Who are the other two and why are they not upset?

Also, having been told ad nauseum that no intimidation goes on on Gransnet, how come all of a sudden it is accepted that it does?

I'm not sure how Gransnet is going to pull itself out of all of this bad feeling!

petallus Sat 13-Oct-12 18:09:37

Yes, cliquey!

Faye Sat 13-Oct-12 18:11:32

Sorry, I meant butternut. It's such a shame people feel got at sometimes, I believe we can all get on, we just have to be mindful to not keep on about things and have a bit of empathy!

whenim64 Sat 13-Oct-12 18:12:15

Gransnet is us. Why not just ......stop? smile

Bags Sat 13-Oct-12 18:15:03

It's friendship, faye, and the people who complain over and over again are jealous because such friendships have developed. If they were less antagonistic they could join in the friendships. No-one is excluding them; if they feel excluded, it is their own perception, not something imposed by other gransnetters.

crimson Sat 13-Oct-12 18:16:19

I feel that someone is trying to put a wedge between people on here sad. I really don't know what's going on because I don't know who is being accused in the first place of being intimidating and, from what I've read thus far,Bags and absent have just tried to smooth things over. Then, everything they say is leapt on and taken out of context. I'm totally bemused by it all. It's not cliquey to defend someone who you feel is being treated unjustly; but that's just my opinion. I don't understand what's happening.

Bags Sat 13-Oct-12 18:18:46

I wondered if I was one of the other hawks. And I was upset. I felt intimidated. You will see if you want to check that I haven't posted on this thread for most of the day. Guess why.

If someone thinks I have bullied them, I'd much rather they were open about it, because I certainly never intend it.

Bags Sat 13-Oct-12 18:20:12

Thank you, crimson. And no, that isn't cliquey either. If we were all in a room together, I'd say the same things in front of everyone.

Faye Sat 13-Oct-12 18:21:51

No baggy it's cliquey when someone is being mean to someone and their friends join in, that's ganging up. In fact, you, soop and absent did it to me on one of my first posts, so do not deny it. Absent is a poster I always avoid, she has only ever sniped at me the whole time I have been on Gransnet.

Barrow Sat 13-Oct-12 18:21:59

Can I suggest we close this thread and leave it all behind and start again fresh with no hard feelings on either side? Gransnet is better than this

whenim64 Sat 13-Oct-12 18:24:06

Hear! hear! Barrow smile