Do you ever feel intimidated?

Please pm me about that, faye. I suspect we disagreed with you strongly but separately, rather than ganging up on you. Just because three people agree with each other and not with another doesn't mean there is any ganging up. I would like to know exactly what we said that upset you, please. I really don't think we were deliberately nasty and I'm sorry that you felt otherwise. I am sending kind regards with this.

I would second barrow.

I thought everyone was going away friends!

Shame on you all for starting it up again! NanaD did explain away her trio as a family of hawks and had taken the point that it could be seen as a barb. Which I had done too and I am not quick to see an insult. It shocked me too, but I am ready to accept that it was a misplaced joke. Can no-one else?

Absent I have every sympathy for you feeling a bit bruised but I felt that the conversation was closed and you opened it again with your comment. I though we were all agreed not to appear plaintive?

Absent Bags Jeni Butter Baubles A pm would have soothed absent without throwing down the gauntlet again and inviting the "clique" criticism yet again.

Faye The same applies. When the exchange is over, shut up and move on.

Now you can all reply angrily to me. Sheesh! why bother to pour oil on troubled water?

ps - In the time it has taken me to post this (I started just after Faye's at 18.06) several others have echoed what I was saying. Could you just all please have a truce? Or should we ask the UN to send in a peacekeeping force?

Here is a post *absent made earlier in the day:

'I should like to point out – at the risk of a lot of flak – that some posters delight in being victims, moaning, whining and complaining about being intimidated or, even more irritatingly, complaining,, as a self-appointed spokesman, about other people being intimidated. They also burble on about personal abuse when there has been no such thing and are awfully good at the Tony Blair defence (defending themselves or others against an accusation that has never been made). Not you Nanadogsody.

They know who they are; I know who they are (even when they have changed their names). It is just so incredibly predictable and massively boring. It's not a "back off" emoticon that is needed but a "get a life" emoticon'

So, is that okay then? I found it quite threatening (hints but not naming anyone)

Fay, I agree with you entirely.

Posted this before seeing Elegran's excellent post. I agree with Elegran that we are probably going to have to draw a line under all of this and maybe we can all admit to a certain amount of responsibility for what has gone on.

Gransnet seems to have gone sour.

Holding grudges is not good, Faye Petallus. The past is another country, and now is now. Pick people up on what they are doing when they do it and let past mistakes stay buried. Otherwise we will be taking revenge on one other until Doomsday.

I repeat - I thought this were discussed honestly and oopenly on this thread and a consensus arrived at which everyone was content with.

TIME TO STOP BICKERING

elegran It wasn't my intention to 'throw down the gauntlet'. I've read on other threads that using the pm facility to discuss threads can be thought 'cliquey' so I considered openness to be the better option.

P.S. I'm not bickering, honest!

I too hope a line can be drawn. If some protagonists do not feel they can leave things as they are, then by all means pm each other but this argument is going nowhere and it is leaving a bad taste. Yes, I know I don't need to read posts and should also leave well alone - can we not let it go now that anything useful has been said?

Just clipping all ears simultaneously, Baubles, while feeling annoyed that the peace I had some hand in brokering was broken already.

Can you hear it in the playground? "He started it!" "No! He did!"

Don't take it personally! Please!

OK enough is enough - if you don't stop squabbling right now you are all going to bed with no supper

Elegran and Barrow the Nobel Peace Prize should have gone to you. Thank you for your efforts

Ditto

I've dusted quiet corner, and freshly brewed tea with chocolate eclairs are waiting to be demolished

Just scroll down to find me the thread

Don't like tea, When can I have coffee? No - not a good idea in the evening. Make it hot choc.

Step this way to the Quiet Corner...........

Sorry, only read to page 5.

I thought what a lovely supportive website this was when I found it (via mumset), posts being so very calm, considerate and helpful (not including mine in these)........ and in fact underneath is a swirling mahem of aggro and distress!!

PS In reply to someone who said they are slow to type posts, it takes 10 days to learn to touch type. I used a pitman book from the library, so can rattle off a post in minutes (which probably won't come as a surprise to anyone who has read any of my contributions )

You can skip the rest Duchess It improved then went downhill again but has all gone quiet now. Come to the quiet corner and have an eclair.

Thanks Elegran but I am in a different time zone and must get off the computer then off to the shops. An eclair sounds lovely.

And there I was peacefully watching Strictly, thinking that all the animosity and finger-pointing were over. Luckily there are threads where everyone is being nice. I'm off to find one.

Maybe our "robust " posters could have a rethink?
And perhaps realise that their posts come across as very very assertive!
Which of course is not the intention, but....

Come on over to the Quiet Corner thread where we are relaxing and enjoying each other's company. All welcome!

You could pop over to the quiet corner too Johanna Everyone has gone home from this thread.

Thank you elegran, will do.

And thank to you too when.
I wil look for the quiet corner now.