I just don't "get it"

Similar situation:- Me. You know I always need that so why can't you just do it? DOH. (smug smile) I like to be asked.

nanapug How lucky you are to have someone so careing but it must be a trait in the male of the species as mr.glamma could be your OHs double,he is very good at looking after me when needed but somethings do not tend to register as quickly as it does to us ladies does it.
You are more than half way there now so not too long to go best wishes on a speedy recovery sweetie

nanapug he sounds lovely. You must be really fed up by now and hate having to ask - it must be a male thing - not long to go!

When I had my hysterectomy I had cheese on toast for lunch EVERY day until I could fend for myself!

It's called not thinking and I wonder if it comes from having had mothers who did all their thinking for them, followed by marriage to us who usually end up doing the same.
In our household, it is 1) me switching off the light in the en suite - I can hear the fan even downstairs - (the light switch is outside the door)
2) taking the recyclng out to the garage from where he has left it in the utility on the way to the garage
3) filling the milk bottles with water after they have been emptied so that a quick rinse is enough
4) on the occasions the dishwasher gets emptied, guess who has to put away all the things he doesn't know where to put (even if he got them out in the first place)

They do think they are being helpful, but I agree about having to ask for things which would be bl***ing obvious to any woman. Get well soon

He's a man!

It definately is a man thing, I have a box on the kitchen side where I put everything that is recycled each day, when asked if he could take this out into the garage and put in the relevant bag/box or bin he came back in and asked where did the plastic stuff go regardless of the fact that he helps me every week take the recycling out to the roadside including the rather large square white bag with all the plastic in it!! and why when he helpfully puts fresh linen on the bed does he never use the little flap at the end of the pillowcase despite me explaining what its for a million times..

Oh yes tanith, that reminds me. I too put all the recycling by the back door and EVERY day have to ask him to take it out. The cheese on toast made me giggle kittylester.
This all makes me feel a little better about it, it is clearly a common "fault" in the male of the species, and I must just keep asking. Only another five weeks to go but I wouldn't swap him for the world ;)

It's all part of marriage, isn't it? You get used to the bits you can't change and enjoy the bits which work! Your husband is looking after you very well nana and you're no doubt getting used to biting your tongue! Hope the next 5 weeks go well and that you don't bite right through it!

I was a temporary 'career' for my DH when he had his knee op. I looked after him pretty well but it got to the stage that if he had said " Can you do me a favour" one more time, I think I could have killed him. So I can sympathise with your hubby. Having said that, I hope you will soon be better and back on your feet

Nanapug I hope you are soon back on your feet and able to 'do' for yourself once again... I wouldn't change OH for all the tea in China either..

nanapug When common sense was being handed out, the men were at the back of the line admiring their you know whats and missed out.

Actually my, female, cleaner is the same with the pillow slips. She also always puts the toilet rolls on the wrong way round , even though her husband complains about the same thing at home!
She also leaves things skewiff and NEVER leaves the bed made evenly!
Perhaps it's my OCD coming out, but it drives me mad!

nanpug Have you forgotten? Men are from Mars? Get well soon

nanapug your DH has a twin and I am married to him

It was triplets and I married him

Hi Nanapug, I do hope you will soon be feeling well again soon.Your message made me laugh. I must be very lucky, when I had a hip replacement, a few years ago, my hubby was brilliant and helped with everything, maybe not the way I would have done things but he did try, as I helped and tried to do things he would normally do when he had a knee op. we just always share jobs so it seems natural to us. Maybe it's because he had two sisters and his Mum always made him do his fair share when he was young. Anyway I wouldn't swap him for the world.

oh nanaplug it is called man think I reckon!! My oH IS A darling but he is guilty of the same way of thinking as your OH it seems quite common!
at the moment I am feeling bit run down got over chest infection now have infection in my thumb, few weeks ago in another finger , point being I ask him if he will wipe kitchen worktop over, just done it he says smugly, really why is there tea stains etc near the kettle? sounds petty but believe it or not sort of trivia we row over!!

seen nurse today she put dressing and stuff to draw my thumb, keep it dry if you can???!! really that is not easy went into boots where my OH STILL works one day as Pharmacist, they all very friendly staff, but sill girl asked for something to put over dressing she sold me finger cots useless, nurse advised not using them much anyway but is a pain! if this treatment does not work back for anti bioitics on Tues. do hope you are better than me at keeping quiet, they do their best!!! hope you better soon!!

Celeb When I need to keep a wound dry on a finger or thumb I cut a finger off a cheap rubber glove (not good tough ones but the disposable cream coloures latex kind you can buy in tens or hundreds, thin and stretchy) and roll that over it. The smaller fingers fit tighter than the bigger ones, and you can throw them out frequently. One glove makes five, of different sizes!

My DGD was so taken with them that she spent an entire afternoon with a dozen gloves and a pair of scissors cutting happily (making what looked for all the world like doll's condoms)

When I had a huge bandage on my hand for six weeks, I protected it with a plastic bag, secured with a rubber band when I was in the shower or attempting to wash dishes as that's not easy with one hand.

I have the opposite problem

A very recent change in my long term meds have left me feeling rubbish at the moment. DH is a total fuss pot!
Yesterday he was "off to potter in the garage for an hour or two" He made sure the remote was within reach, went up and fetched my book, and made me a cuppa all without being asked. And I'm not even immobile !!

Bless him

What a nice giggle this was!

My lovely star OH leaves doors open (all shapes and sizes), can walk through house opening all doors, and leaving all open behind him. Tidies kitchen for me and leaves the cupboard doors open! Bless him! We used to say 'born in a barn', but I think he was born in a shop!

thanks annodomini - I been in lot pain since i knocked blessed thumb on tap Monday with all stress of our visit to DD I am getting dab hand at washing hands with thumb upright so keep dry!! managed to clean en suite bathroomwith my right hand yesterday ( I am left handed) do think may get away with out anti biotics as painful but not so red and the mag sulphate paste seemed to work!

still got blood test next week as Doctor wondered why I keep getting theseinfections so do I!!

Cling film makes a good temporary covering for dressings.I often recommended this when I was still in practice as a pharmacist .It's something most of us have in the kitchen.

Celeb - can you not get rubber gloves on?
My ex husband would do exactly what I asked him to do in the house, but never used any intelligence. If I asked him to vacuum the carpet in the living room, he would do just that, ignoring the dining room which was just through an arch in the wall. If I asked him to wash the pots, he would say afterwards 'You never mentioned the pans or the cooker'. It worked, of course, I soon stopped asking him to do anything. Then I left him.