Has anyone seen Absent?

Oh of course, Granny23 - I wasn't thinking! All we can hope for then, is that she returns under another name and lurks until she feels she wants to join us. As she's de-registered, at least we know she hadn't been taken ill suddenly - she was well enough to take the decision to leave, and not just lost interest and drifted away without posting again.

Let's hope that she didn't take the advice of a couple of members who advised her to 'go for it' and have 'a cosy afternoon' with two guys, then her non-tactile husband found out.

OMG let's hope not.

I think absent is a strong lady who would follow her own path and not take advice about something so serious, Riverwalk.

I agree. I would have hazarded a wild guess that she'd closed her account to get the urgent job done without the temptation of being sidetracked, but that wouldn't ring true because she would surely have let her friends know.

I wonder if she felt she had told us too much about her personal life and invited some comments that she'd rather not have had.

Perhaps if that's the case, annodomini, she'll come back under another name.

But...we'd know it was absent I think.

Some of us would, Ana, but I think she'd know we'd respect her new identity, don't you?

Of course, Marelli. It's just that, as others have said before, a distinctive personality is hard to disguise.

It won't really matter though, will it, Ana? Perhaps a wee break will help absent in the meantime.

Yes indeed, I hope so.

I really miss her perceptive comments

If I had posted something so personal and DH had found out I think a condition of our continued relationship would be to sever all contact on the forum. I could be totally wrong but I think most men would be horrified to find their sex life discussed, it is a no go area for discussion.

I agree, harri. My first thought when we realised absent was completely absent that she had been 'rumbled' by Mr Absent. We are sad to lose you, absent. All the best.

I've just read through and think maybe with the work absent has on at the moment she has buckled down to get it finished and done so by stopping all temptation to chat to us for a while and the only way would be to have a sabatical and renew in the new year,thats my thoughts and I hope I'm right as I will miss her input very much.

It might be worth reminding ourselves that Gransnet is a public website and our posts are viewable by all and sundry. Just try Googling some user names (I tried absent's but it works for all but the most mundane, such as mine!) and many threads they've posted on will come up.

would imagine that could have happend maybe her OH TOOK exception it was a very personal thread come to think of it, lets hope alls well anyway!!

Is there any news on absent? I do miss her posts and have often been thinking of her

All the PM's that I had received from her seem to have disappeared!

Are you sure they haven't just gone off the page, phoenix? There is a little arrow thingy that lets you go back to previous pages of PMs.