Does anyone else think that there is far too much petty bickering on GN

How sad it is to come on here and read this thread and to find that members who have contributed such a lot to the forum with their knowledge and empathy have made the decision to leave,and jeni a person who would not hurt any ones feelings caught in the crossfire- very sad indeed.
I have always said that comments made can be misconstrude because we do not have full visual sight of who is saying what and comments can come across incorrect when there is no direct contact so please the people who are looking to leave or who have left have a think again as your inputs to the forum are valuable,rather than leave GN just give some threads that you think confrontational a miss,I have made some good virtual friends here and we have had some very good times and some hard discussions but at the end of the day we are grown up ladies enjoying the company of like minded women and we should embrace the fact that this site brings a welcome visitor into our lives.Lets hope it will close now and lets enjoy the season of good will and look forward to pleasent times again.

We can all leave it here but it will come up again. No one seems to have taken the point that it is usually fairly new GNs who bring up this topic, presumably not realising how many times it has come up before. As newcomers we can imo assume they are pretty impartial observers so perhaps they have a valid point.

Happy Christmas to all, even the unpleasant posters!

...and that Grans are grand mothers and not grand children and, and and....

nellie you are a prime example of the nicer people on GN, the majority. We agree about JH and you were happy to clarify to me for which I am grateful. It would be so easy to enjoy GN if everyone were like you. Actually I hadn't meant it to sound like I was attacking your view, just standing up for someone I admire greatly.

And perhaps remember that PMs are private and nobody should ever be told again to leave GN.

So, does that mean we've got to watch every single thing we say. In case someone takes umbrage.

Life's gonna get boring.

GN is a community and like all communities sometimes people disagree. It would be a far poorer community if people left because of something that was said. Please lets draw a line under any hurt feelings or misunderstandings and start again. I hope anyone who has felt the need to leave will reconsider and come back - everyone is valued

Good morning!

jeni Enjoy your cruise. Xx

nana Please come back. I have been on GN for quite a while now, and would miss you a lot.

crimson Please don't go!

We are a virtual family here on GN, so we will inevitably argue, feel hurt and even attacked, but as gramps says, we can rise above it. The support and friendship here is invaluable. when said earlier that GN enhances her life, and I agree completely. You are all important, to me at any rate.

ZZZZZZZZ!

jeni; you're supposed to be in bed [oops; so am I ]...

Well said gramps!
The wisdom of the ages shows!

I realise that some folks have been badly affected by whatever has been said ,or misconstrued, but we are all grown ups {!}
Can the episode be forgiven, even if not forgotten. After all, what is the point of depriving yourselves of the pleasure we all get from this Forum, which seems a "Lifeline" for a lot of members of GNeters!
I have not read the "offending" piece, so this advice is really a generalization!

Peoples pride has been hurt! You can rise above it!!

Gramps.

I am so so sad, I tried to PM Nanad and the message wouldn't go through, which means she has definitely gone. Nanad and I have had lots of pleasant messages and chats via PM but not emails so I won't be able to contact her again.

It was apparently something I said that upset her! I still have no idea what. I have given her my phone number so that we could discuss
What more can I do?

I really HATE upsetting people, and I'm quite upset!

I'm now definitely to bed! Got to finish packing tomorrow!

Goodnight all!

But it seems that it was my comment that made her leave and I don't really know what I've said that's so bad because I've never been aware of jeni saying anything horrid to anyone . Yes; it was a thread to be avoided at all costs. Should have carried on watching SPOTY. Only sneaked up here to have a crafty piece of cake without anyone seeing me [no calories if you do that...].

When I saw the OP I decided this was a thread best left alone. We've had discussions like this before and they never end on a happy note.
Nobody should feel they need to leave.

crimson don't go either.

She's already gone, Faye.

nanad do not go.

Well done, Nanadog has left.

Goodnight all. Please sleep on it, Nanadog.

nana and crimson - please don't go. You have both been members of GN for ages and I have enjoyed your company, (Midlands meet-up)friendship and support. (Plus, crimson has good taste in sighthounds)
-Stop and think-
What was thepoint of this thread?
Why was it started?
How many people have felt hurt?
A can of worms has been needlessly opened and a lot of harsh thing said or implied which need never have been

I have held back from posting all day as I felt I too was being vilified and I no longer felt comfortable to be here, but when old friends like jeni, crimson and nanadog are getting caught in the crossfire I think it is time to say enough is enough
I have no problem with posts which stimulate healthy discussion - even the odd argument, but I have been able to discern no other consequence to this exchange of views than criticism and trouble.
In the interests of sanity, can this please stop here. If anybody has a grouse with an individual they are free to talk to that person in private, just as you would do in "real life", we do not to hear others pleading on behlaf of third parties about issues of which we know nothing. Peace, please.

I'm just copying my mentor

Any way, I'm to bed! I've only packed two cases so far. I've another four to go!!!
[moon\

Oi jens! what you putting all those spaces between your lines for?

nandog stop making 'er feel bad.