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vampirequeen Tue 18-Dec-12 17:19:28

My daughter has just miscarried and is understandably devastated.

There seems to have been a lot wrong with the baby. There was water around it's heart and brain that shouldn't have been there and other parts didn't appear to be growing properly so it is a blessing in disguise.

I'm being strong and stoic for her but don't really feel it. Inside I've lost a grandchild.

I know I'm being selfish asking this but if anyone could give me a hug I'd really appreciate it.

petallus Tue 18-Dec-12 17:21:34

I'm sending a hug vampirequeen

My daughter lost two so I know how sad it can be.

JessM Tue 18-Dec-12 17:26:04

Oh that is tough. You have to look after her and can't fall apart at the seams. At the same time you don't want to appear like you don't care. Not easy being a mother of grown ups is it. Big hug and sorry it is only virtual one as you probably need a real one.

Bags Tue 18-Dec-12 17:26:05

Oh, vamp! So sorry! Hug. xx

jO5 Tue 18-Dec-12 17:27:11

So sorry vampirequeen. Nature has a way of dealing with things. sad Hope things can turn out better for you both in the future.

(((hug))) from me.

whenim64 Tue 18-Dec-12 17:27:59

Big (((hugs))) and a comforting arm round your shoulder vq. There's such sorrow at a time like this, and the memory of the baby you didn't get to see will always be tucked away, but it will start to feel less raw in time. flowers

mrshat Tue 18-Dec-12 17:32:51

Lots of hugs vq, a sad time for you all. Hang on in there and be strong. flowers

Anne58 Tue 18-Dec-12 17:32:57

VQ thinking of you and sending (((((((hugs)))))) I miscarried twins, with a bit of a gap between them, never knew what was wrong with the first, but the second has spina bifida in 3 places. Love to you, your daughter and all the family.

xxxx

jeni Tue 18-Dec-12 17:38:04

{{{{hugs}}}} from me. My Dd lost 3 and I know what it's like!

annodomini Tue 18-Dec-12 17:38:20

Big ((((hugs)))), VQ.

Ceesnan Tue 18-Dec-12 17:54:22

Hugs from me too. So sorry.

Ana Tue 18-Dec-12 17:56:07

Hugs from me, too vampirequeen

Marelli Tue 18-Dec-12 17:56:25

A warm arm around your shoulders, vampirequeen. It's hard to find the right words to give you comfort, but we're doing our best. You'll know how to help your girl......just how you always have done. flowers xx

Butty Tue 18-Dec-12 18:02:03

I am so sorry vq - (hugs) x

Ella46 Tue 18-Dec-12 18:22:51

So sorry, vq (((hugs))) best wishes to all of you xx

Nelliemoser Tue 18-Dec-12 18:32:34

VQ I can understand every point you have made about how you feel. (((hugs)))

Mishap Tue 18-Dec-12 18:34:00

My DD too lost several - but there was a happy ending and she now has two children. So, hang on in there - it may all come right in the end. Just now she needs you to be there for her, as I am sure that you will be. My thoughts are with you - I know what a difficult line it is to tread when you want to be strong for her, but share her sadness.

baubles Tue 18-Dec-12 18:37:18

A {{hug}} from me too. I'm sorry flowers for you, your daughter and her OH.

CHEELU Tue 18-Dec-12 18:49:31

Your not selfish at all vampirequeen, a miscarriage effects everyone, well done for being brave for your daughter, a Hug from me x x

london Tue 18-Dec-12 18:58:01

a no what thats like my granddaughter lost twins hugs vampirequeen x

Nanado Tue 18-Dec-12 19:02:16

Oh VC so sorry. My DD lost two between her sons. It's a tragedy for everyone and to happen just now. You've got a lot of support and I'd like to add my ((((hugs))) to all the others flowers

vampirequeen Tue 18-Dec-12 19:15:10

Thank you everyone. Your hugs and support have let me cry. You have no idea how much you've helped

xxxxxx

gracesmum Tue 18-Dec-12 19:18:17

{{hugs}} From me too - you are feeling it twice over - once as a mother and again as a would-have been- grandmother. You say a blessing in disguise, but it won't seem like that right now - just a very great sadness. Love to you and your DDflowers

kittylester Tue 18-Dec-12 19:23:33

Great big (((hug))) vq. My youngest lost 3 before she had DGS2 and is now expecting another. I found the hardest part was trying to be pleased for her sister with her new baby just 2 weeks after DD3's third miscarriage. The bit that got me was DD3's bravery in going to see the new baby.

You will be fine vq - Mum's usually are! flowers

Sook Tue 18-Dec-12 20:19:25

I am so sorry to hear your sad news vq I'm sending great big hugs for you xx