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HUNTERF Tue 25-Dec-12 17:59:34

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''And those who have lost loved ones may find this day especially full of memories.
"That's why it's important at this time of year to reach out beyond our familiar relationships to think of those who are on their own.
"At Christmas I am always struck by how the spirit of togetherness lies also at the heart of the Christmas story''.

I do think the people in my area are not thinking of the above very well.
Since my father passed away I have been denied the use of the Bereaved Club which is aimed at people in my position and just been hastled by about 20 people over the house I inherited from my father.

I did however like her tribute to volunteers. I am a regular volunteer at various CRUK events although I did not volunteer in the mentioned events. I did bhowever think her comments were aimed at all volunteers.

I do however have the support of my other family

Frank

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Anne58 Tue 25-Dec-12 20:46:08

Frank, I don't really know what to say, but just wanted you to know that i have read your post and it has made me think.

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HUNTERF Tue 25-Dec-12 21:36:48

Hi phoenix

My impression of berieved clubs is certain people are cared about probably because they have been members for a long time etc.
Unfortunately the members seem to get set ideas that other people in the berieved club should inherit a members estate when a member dies and not the son / daughter.
The members of the club think's it is of no importance I was widowed in 2003 and my father passed away early in 2012.
All they want is for me to hand over the house I jointly owned with my father and inherited.
They do not give a monkeys where I will live etc.

Frank

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Anne58 Wed 26-Dec-12 16:45:55

That doesn't sound at all like an organisation that I would want to be a member of! Surely they should be there to provide support for those who have lost someone they love, or am I not quite understanding exactly what the aim of that particular club is?

Heaven knows what they would make of me as a bereaved person! My youngest son commited suicide on December 12th 2008, he was 19, nothing to inherit or argue over. (Except the funeral arrangements, which were taken over by ex dh and his sociopath partner)

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HUNTERF Wed 26-Dec-12 17:32:59

Hi phoenix

I am sorry to hear about your son, In some ways it is worse than the passing of my wife and father,
My father death was really old age and my wife was cancer. She was a non smoker.
I must say volunteering with Cancer Research UK has supported me much more than the berieved club.
Oddly enough my wife and myself were CRUK volunteers for years prior to my wife getting cancer.
At least I am doing my bit to help future people and hopefully to prevent / cure cancer in the future.
I mainly volunteer with Race for Life and various walks.
My favourite event is Relay for Life which I attend as a supporter and put a candle on the track in memory of my wife each year and donate some money.
This event brings us all together to remind us we are not alone and does raise some funds for research.
We have our 1 minute silence just before night fall which is the only time nobody is on the track where various stories are told about cancer.
I am pleased we are now getting more survivors candels by the year.
I also put a candle on the track on behalf of my father.
He did not pass away with cancer but he volunteered for years so in my view he isd entitled to his place.

Frank

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