Bumped up the isthisallthereis thread as tanglerose might find some relevant comments on there. By the way, where is isthisallthereis? They must have found the answer 
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tanglerose you are entitled to feel low. You've had a difficult time.
One other thing I would mention is that people who have stressful jobs are well known for having really bad colds as soon as they take a holiday. It's a similar thing really that is happening to you at the moment. I'm sure you will feel better soon, you just need to look after yourself for now and not expect too much. Soon, a lovely sunny day will come along and you will find your energy returning. In the meantime, read books, watch daytime TV, listen to music - whatever helps you. 
I agree with what everyone else has said. I have not retired yet, but in October I took redundancy from a stressful job. I was looking forward to a break after years of stress, tensions at work and also shift work. I was looking forward to spending more time looking after my grandson and catching up with household tasks. I was really surprised to find that as soon as I stopped I felt completely exhausted and wanted to sleep constantly. I also began to feel quite low and to worry about things that hadn't actually happened. I think I am almost back to my normal level of energy again but my mood is still up and down. I think gracesmum is right about the fact that we run on adrenaline and when that stops so do we! Be kind to yourself and you will come through smiling.
I am just beginning to enjoy it, but have to start a new job soon. Don't know whether to be or 
but at least I know what to expect if I do ever retire!
Be kind to yourself, pamper yourself a little 
tanglerose, I agree with the others who think you now have time for everything to catch up with you. It sounds to me as if you're doing some of the mourning you haven't had time for while you were so busy, because you aren't doing all you expected. It will pass - possibly you won't notice it doing so until you suddenly find one day that you feel a lot better. Just go with the flow and do whatever (if anything) you get an urge to do and wait until things look up. Best wishes and [hugs]
Tanglerose you are feeling like this because you have a huge amount of sadness and worry on your shoulders. You felt retiring would make it easier but it has probably given you more time to think. You need to be kinder to yourself. I wish we could do more to help you, but at least we can listen and give you support. Best Wishes.
I recognise much of what you are saying Tanglerose - the adrenalin you have been running on over the months and years of being strong for you family, has run out and now you need time and understanding to recharge your batteries. I felt very much like you for a few months after retiring and also after DH's periods of illness - once the strain is off a person is much more likely to go to pieces. Time of year doesn't help either- dark, cold gloomy. Take some deep breaths, do not set yourself any targets- having all the time in the world is not the universal panacea many people think - you can feel aimless, rootless even useless, but once you feel ready, I would suggest some fresh air - countryside or seaside, some visits to nice places you have always wanted to see, a bit of pampering if you enjoy that and then once the Spring comes - look at how you want to spend your time - who needs you and what you will enjoy doing. You are not unique in feeling like this- my SisIL retired from being a GP 9 months ago and despite knowing my own experience of how you often feel worse before you feel better, went through a period of real depression. Don't force yourself and don't commit to too much, but you will find activities and people who will help to give a new form to your days. 2 1/2 years down the line I feel I am in a good place now, but it took time.
Oh tanglerose you poor thing,all that sadness and worry about family, no wonder you feel so tired and upset.
It took me months to get used to retirement and I didn't have any stress at all at that time, and I felt guilty for ages.
Please try and give yourself time to relax, and be kind to yourself. You're no good to anybody if you are stressed out.
We're here to help and support you whenever you need it xx
Tanglerose no time to do this thread justice as I'm on my way out. and plenty of ((((hugs)))).
As someone else has said, you haven't had time to be tired for years! It will take a while for your body (and your mind) to be able to relax. A long soaky bath sounds good - be kind to yourself.
You're tired out, tanglerose. Knowing that you no longer have the strict routine of work to direct your days, your body is allowing you to you slow down.
It takes time to take on board that your time's your own once you retire, and sometimes a bit of guilt sets in, making you feel that you should be doing this or that. Be kind to yourself and listen to your body. Don't make any plans and everything will begin to fall into place.
tangle its now your time, it takes a while to get off the carousel. It takes a little while to find yourself again, you have had alot going on the last 10 years you have to expect a time of adjustment. Dont be afraid to enjoy it.{{{hugs}}} 
tanglerose not trivial at all! You describe what sounds like a marathon of emotions and not to mention working, and now you have stopped to take a deep breath and is has all caught up. Be gentle with yourself.
tanglerose, you're another one (like me) who feels they have no right to complain because others have things far worse - but that's not the point. You've had a great deal to worry about which has worn you down, and despite probably looking forward to retirement it's a bit of an anti-climax.
I agree with Ariadne - give yourself time to gather your strength and look after yourself for a while. Human beings are resilient, but we all need to treat ourselves gently sometimes.
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