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Has everybody arranged their mothers day meal etc?.

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HUNTERF Thu 07-Mar-13 07:25:24

I think it is important that grandparents ensure that their daughters / daughters in law are going to get a mother's day meal or some other form of treat.
As my oldest granddaughter is 6 I think the grandparents will be paying the bill.
I have decided that my granddaughters can earn the money by helping me take Andie for a nice walk in the afternoon or on another day if it is raining.
Their other grandparents will be contributing as well so Dougal ( their dog can come as well ).
My granddaughters will enjoy the walk as well as they love both the dogs.

Frank

suzied Thu 07-Mar-13 07:43:34

Oh no I forgot it was Mother's Day. Will have to have 93 yo MIL round for lunch and she will moan that she can't smoke and how mean we are etc. I won't get a chance to relax. Gritted teeth all round.

Butty Thu 07-Mar-13 08:10:26

I think that's a grand idea. I'll just pop on a train to Paris, and fly to London. There I can take DiL out for a lovely meal before I drive to Heathrow to catch a plane to Philly. Then I can hire a car and drive to my other DiL and take her out for a meal. Whilst there, I'll ensure the two grandkids help take their dog out for a walk or two as a contribution towards my fares. Then I'll come home. I reckon about £1,000.00 should do it. wink

absent Thu 07-Mar-13 08:15:22

I have never heard of a father taking his daughters out for lunch to celebrate Mothers' day. It sounds almost deviant. I would guess that my daughter, her husband and all the children will go out together for lunch when Mothers' Day comes (May in New Zealand). As we shall be in NZ by that time, we might be invited to join them on the grounds that I, too, am a mother.

glammanana Thu 07-Mar-13 08:25:44

Our DD is treated throughout the year not just on Mothers Day by her DCs,they often buy her flowers and take her out to eat when they have spare funds,in our family when the DCs where younger I used to remind them to buy cards or take them to buy one for her a nice bunch of daffodils are appreciated more than any meal in my DDs household.

HUNTERF Thu 07-Mar-13 08:34:06

Hi absent

As far as both grandparents are concerned in our family the money for paying for the mother's meals will come out of their inheritance so we do not think it matters that the grandparents share the bill.

Frank

annodomini Thu 07-Mar-13 08:54:38

Oh for heaven's sake!!!

glammanana Thu 07-Mar-13 08:56:23

I must remember to take the cost of the meal DD and I had last week off what will be her share of our inheritance before her brothers find out grin

Marelli Thu 07-Mar-13 09:09:09

It's all money, money, money with you Frank! hmm

Mamalinda Thu 07-Mar-13 09:09:54

My mother has cancelled a previous engagement to come for a roast lamb dinner with me and my hubby - I also invited my sisters and one of them is coming with her OH and 3 children and my FIL lives in an annex with us so he will come as well - my children have plans with their families so my DD and DIL get spoiled - looks as though I am the only one doing the work but I wouldn't change it for the world as I love having family round for a lovely Sunday roast - now what to do for dessert?

bluebell Thu 07-Mar-13 09:10:44

We're having the M&S deal at my daughter's - her turn this year- we're taking a bottle of rose champagne which dd and I love ( bought in France for 13 euros -not too bad a dent in the inheritance ). Looking forward to it.

whenim64 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:15:40

Butty grin I hope you at least get Skype hugs smile

So far, I am breakfasting with my daughter and twin grandaughters, and going for an Italan meal with other daughter and twin grandsons. Both my sons will panic on Saturday when it dawns on them! grin As long as a card is produced, I'm not fussed.

Elijay Thu 07-Mar-13 09:22:38

It's all so commercialised. I hate all these unrealistic expectations. I dislike the fuss and the bother. I'd much rather be spoiled on my Birthday.

j08 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:24:56

Absent what on earth would be wrong with a father taking his daughters/daughters in law out to lunch for Mothers'Day?! They are mothers in Frank's case. It's a lovely plan. And involving the grandkids in that way is great.

Good idea Frank.

Absent I do wonder about your way of thinking sometimes. hmm

j08 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:27:01

Can't believe you said it sounds almost deviant! shock Where on earth did that come from!

Mamie Thu 07-Mar-13 09:30:21

Virtual Mother's Day for me too Butty. Then you get French Mother's Day in June? and everyone arrives to see their mothers and I feel twice sad

j08 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:36:10

As I hmm left it too late, everywhere is booked up round here, so one of the daughters can cook the meal this year. Which will be nice.

Butty Thu 07-Mar-13 09:38:35

You got it in one, Mamie (as the youngsters would say)!

Blessings to the Almighty Skype In The Clouds grin

Mamie Thu 07-Mar-13 09:43:05

Agreed. Even when smallest GD buries her head and won't talk. On the bright side eldest DG now does Facetime on her own.

Hunt Thu 07-Mar-13 09:46:34

wasn't it nice when a little bunch of violets or primroses and a home made card said it all. If you didn't live in the country where you could pick you primroses or violets , you could buy a little bunch at the florists. (Picking wild flowers was allowed in those days)

Barrow Thu 07-Mar-13 09:48:39

Bit difficult for me to take my Mum out - she lives in Australia where Mothers day is on a different day! She will be receiving a large bouquet on Saturday (I hope!)

Elijay Thu 07-Mar-13 09:54:52

@Hunt I agree with you on this, keep it simple, just tell your Mum you love her and if you can, give her a hug.

grannyactivist Thu 07-Mar-13 10:00:48

I shall be eating out with my parents in law, my husband, and my daughter and son in law. Daughter is paying for my meal, my husband is paying for his mum and my son in law will pay for my daughter. Because my father in law is a kind and generous man I expect he'll pick up the drinks tab. Sorted - and I don't have to cook! grin
My sons will remember and buy me a simple gift. I'm not too well again at the moment, so they're fussing over me a little bit, bless 'em.

absent Thu 07-Mar-13 10:01:57

j08 I merely said, in so many words, that in my experience if Mothers' Day is celebrated, it is done so with the mothers' children and partners, not with their father, father-in-law and grandfather who has no particular relevance to that specific occasion. My father would never have suggested such a thing but I would certainly have regarded him as butting in unnecessarily if he had. Going our for dinner or lunch on other occasions is a different matter.

ginny Thu 07-Mar-13 10:10:41

As my youngest DD is running in a half marathon on Sunday, my three DDs are taking me out for lunch on Saturday. My grandson will be coming so that he shares the treat with his Mum. My DH won't be coming. Family tradition ( which people seem to find odd) is that Mothers Day treat is just for me and he has his turn on Fathers' day. I Lost my Mum 20 years ago but DH and I will visit MIL on Sunday.