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Do you 'like' all your friends?

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mollie Sat 22-Jun-13 13:57:27

Yes. I've a long standing friend that I really dislike sometimes purely for the negative, one-sided and obsessed conversations that we have. But when it gets too much I tell her and she does change. My mum, on the other hand, has a friend who rings her out of the blue, spends the next 59 minutes telling how wonderful everything is and swanking like crazy then rings off without asking mum anything or letting her respond! It'd be funny if it wasn't annoying.

vegasmags Sat 22-Jun-13 13:48:13

I'm very grateful for my friends, who of course have their faults and failings, but as I'm not perfect either, I just try to take the rough with the smooth. smile

gracesmum Sat 22-Jun-13 13:36:22

I paraphrase in the interests of anonymity!!grin

Movedalot Sat 22-Jun-13 13:35:52

I am quite lucky I think as I don't think I have any close friends like that but I do have the kind who moan a lot on Fb when I'm sure their lives are not that bad!

When something of particular note happens to one of my family I do tell others but it tends to be just as a fact rather than a boast (I hope it comes across like that!) On the odd occasion when I moan it is face to face only.

I have chosen not to tell all about my family's successes on GN because I don't know you all personally and, for me, it would feel like boasting if I did. So you can take it as read that my grandchildren are the best in the world and that my DSs and their OHs are better looking, better educated, kinder, more saintly and more successful than everyone else! grin

Ella46 Sat 22-Jun-13 13:34:42

Most of my friends I've had for a long time, and occasionally there are 'moments of irritation', but on the whole they are a great bunch.
However, I have 'culled' a couple, one of whom moaned incessantly for 2 years without actually doing anything about her problems.

janeainsworth Sat 22-Jun-13 13:26:34

Tarquin and Araminta gracesmum!
Your friends are obviously a lot posher than minegrin
<cue Monty Python-type conversation> grin

Greatnan Sat 22-Jun-13 13:13:04

And sometimes when you know the full facts, their children are not quite as perfect as they make out!

gracesmum Sat 22-Jun-13 13:04:35

Oh how I sympathise and agree!! I get so sick of their perfect lives, ths sort of thing that used to feature in those Christmas letters about Tarquin's rugger blue or Araminta's school choir trip to Macchu Pichu !!
I would not wish real misfortune on any of them (well, maybe just a tiny banana skin moment) and actually GN is the place where I have realised that there are many of us with assorted crosses to bear, many of them heart-breaking,but I am constantly encouraged by all of you who can still share a laugh* and who care about others.

flowerfriend Sat 22-Jun-13 13:03:17

I do like my friends but that doesn't mean that one or two make me feel uncomfortable sometimes. My closest friend holds some funny views, such as that she thinks there is no such thing as cancer and that it is an illness caused by doctors worrying you. I need hardly add that she doesn't visit doctors and throws invitations to have mammograms and smears in the bin.

That said she is kind and thoughtful and good fun.

grandimars Sat 22-Jun-13 12:44:48

I have a friend who talks about her wonderful grandchildren, to the exclusion of anything else. Her teenage grandson is apparently the star of the local silver band, and outside that plays every instrument known to man. His younger sister joined the band last year and is already the best player for her age of her instrument they've ever had. They are academically gifted.. etc etc. I am naturally proud of my grandchildren and sometimes mention the odd thing they've done, but this is never commented on, just topped by her lot's latest achievements. I actually realise that I am seeing less of her that I did a year ago, and this may be why.

ninathenana Sat 22-Jun-13 12:18:54

Appropriate to the title but not exactly relevant to the OP.
I have a friend who drives me mad sometimes. I have been known to throw the phone down after reading a text from her (she never rings me).

Yes I sympathize with the fact that both her and her DH have become registered disabled since I have known them. I wouldn't want want her life. But surely she has another topic of conversation !!

When SIL first met her he said 'I would never have imagined you two as friends'

Marelli Sat 22-Jun-13 11:19:10

I've just seen a neighbour post on Facebook how well her children and step-daughters have done at school, the eldest becoming a prefect in her last year. Facebook is a good place to boast, perhaps.
No-one's life is all roses, and there's often an undercurrent of something that the boaster would like to see different, especially with their children. I know a few like that....'my son has just bought a BMW and his wife has got a new mini', (do I think of much debt involved here?) 'and little Peregrine has come top in his maths test again'....yawn! wisewoman's comment's a good one. smile

wisewoman Sat 22-Jun-13 11:02:59

Yes I do and as I have got older I realise how sad it is that (a) people have to get their status through their children's achievements and (b) they must feel very insecure to keep telling everyone how wonderful their children are. That is not to say that we all like a wee boast about our children and so we should but I don't think that is the kind of thing you are talking about. If she is a good friend otherwise then I guess you just put up with it or maybe make a wee joke about it, eg "I wish my children were as perfect as yours".

kittylester Sat 22-Jun-13 10:54:55

I have a friend whose life is always wonderful - her daughter's soon to be 3rd husband is really in love with her, treats her so well, etc (as did the previous 2 confused). Her granddaughter works at 'the best law firm', her grandson is doing his degree at the same university as most of the country's top business men, his teacher says he has exactly the right attitude to be a millionaire by the time he is 30 - you get my drift!

I'm aware that, often, it's just a case of 'protesting too much' but sometimes I find it really wearing although we have the same sense of humour and get on really well.

Does anyone else know people like that?