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Shows you have to take advantage of life when you have it.

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HUNTERF Thu 04-Jul-13 22:13:41

tv.uk.msn.com/features/bernie-nolan-loses-her-battle-with-cancer

I met shook hands and had a brief conversation with Bernie become she became famous.
Even I was reasonably young then.
I help with Race for Life and it is just frightening to see how many people were born years after me have now passed away.

Frank

Nonu Fri 05-Jul-13 20:23:32

Thank you JO 8 ,

gracesmum Sat 06-Jul-13 08:26:07

While not disputing the truth that life is for living as we will only get one bite at this particular cherry, I am mindful of those for whom "grabbing life by the b***s" might seem wishful thinking, those for whom, just putting one foot in front of the other is a daily mountain to climb. These "inspirational" quotes can ring very hollow when life is at its darkest and are not necessarily helpful. Yes I am happy for all those who can remain positive in the face of adversity - or who are lucky enough NOT to be facing it. No, I am not feeling particularly down at present for myself, but thinking of those who may have found waking up to another desperate day almost too much to bear.

absent Sat 06-Jul-13 09:54:12

No it doesn't. People die. They don't have battles with cancer; it's probably the most tedious cliché in the world. We can all choose what we do with our lives because they are our lives.

Nonu Sat 06-Jul-13 10:21:45

Gracemum

Don"t think for one nano-second I have not had ups and downs in my life,so I do feel empathy for others as is shown in several of my posts.

I am justing stating ^ MY ^ position at this moment in time .

Ariadne Sat 06-Jul-13 10:25:42

I do agree, absent about this battle analogy with cancer; you get it, you have to get on with dealing with it in your own way. Sometimes I cannot do "Carpe diem" but mostly I try, but in my case it is to do with valuing what I have and with my survival thus far.

ninathenana Sat 06-Jul-13 18:46:36

I agree no battles with cancer, no heros, no brave fights. You suffer it, you curse it, sometimes you just want to give in (if only for a few hours) you then convince yourself that you can survive.
Those around you pray that you do.

JessM Sat 06-Jul-13 19:48:46

I think it might be a case of don't spoil the life you have by getting het up about trivia, taking offence over little things, fretting about what might have been and worrying about what might happen. Easier said than done.
But no point telling people they should be "thinking positive" when they are still struggling with the above. As most of us are.
Good mate of mine has a blood test 10 days ago. Next day called at work and summoned into the oncology ward as blood count was desperately low. Chemo starts next week.

Deedaa Sat 06-Jul-13 21:09:45

A dear girl whom I have known for years is currently undergoing chemotherapy AGAIN. She's only thirty and has had bowel cancer twice and breast cancer twice. Yet she is still able to post on Facebook about the poor woman she met who had lost one side of her face and to be grateful that she is so lucky herself!!!