Crass behaviour

No, we are all meeting up in England GK. Sometimes I can hardly bear to think about how hard life is for him. He is very excited about England and knows dates, departure times and distances by heart.
I will be glad to get away, everyone here has gone on holiday!

Mamie Have a good time.

Sweet boy. (for Mamie). You want to sometimes just pick them up and wrap them in that cottonwool that we're not supposed to be even thinking about. I wish the process of watching children becoming adults wasn't so hard!? Especially when they have challenges.

Yes it is hard. There is something about the lack of understanding of the world that makes him particularly vulnerable. I think in some senses Spain is a better place for him to grow up as people stay so close to their families, though. Looking forward to time with both the children next week, our granddaughter is not so keen on speaking English at the moment, so I hope we can work on that!

My grandson aged 14 has Aspergers. I find him endlessly fascinating.
He looks at the world differently.
Some people are very ignorant about autism/aspergers, so they are best ignored... or, some might say, we should help to enlighten them, maybe.

butty its down to lack of understanding, but thats no excuse!
My Sister has had some terrible comments from people, her 20 yr old son is autistic he is well over 6ft and a big strapping lad, people can be so cutting in the comments they thoughtlessly throw around. {{{hugs}}}

The problem is the adult , but try not to let it rankle. When my DD1 was about two , her godmother and my oldest friend came to stay. She was helping with the housework and in those days there were no duvets. I had blankets which were open weave. My friends watch disappeared and she was convinced that DD had taken it. For hours she kept asking where the child might have hidden it and then kept telling m e that it didn't Matter but I was mortified. She had no idea about children as I didn't but she was an infant schoolteacher and I thought she knew best . By the time she told DD that Mummy would love you any more if she didn't say where the watch was I began to pity the poor kids in her care. As the atmosphere had got cooler and my friend was leaving I started to strip her bed. Caught in the mesh of the blanket was the watch. There was no way DD could have got into the room as the door handles were adult chest height in that house. But as you can see it still rankles nearly 40 years later.

Mamie My grandson is just the same. He can socialise with children two years younger than himself but finds it impossible to make friends within his class. The others regard him as a bit odd and refer to him as crazy. So sad ! He did make one friend last year with a boy we feel is on the spectrum but has not been diagnosed but the school has decided to put them into different classes next year. I can understand this in a way but he is going to be isolated again. He is so sociable but does not have the same social skills as the others.

A story from my past (just one of several). We lived next door to a very nice couple Who wre spiritualists, and the lady of the house gained comfort from 'talking' with her dead father. I enjoyed chatting with her, and she enjoyed the company of my daughter (who has grown into a lovely caring person). Her view on the reason our son was born as he was, and suffered so much, (he was never in any physical pain) was that he had led a very bad life in his previous world. My response to that was I had probably been as bad, because in all honesty my life was no bowl of cherries at that time. Having said that we remained friends, and she would always sit with our childre in the evening if we asked. I think you just get a thicker skin along with greater understanding.

I think your neighbour's comment was totally unacceptable and would have upset me for weeks. I'm afraid I don't have a thick skin !

I agree Gorki. I'm afraid I'd have walked out of that house and never returned. I don't suffer fools gladly and that was truly a crass remark . You're a more forgiving woman than I ever could be PM