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Just let me explode..........

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Mishap Wed 23-Oct-13 14:47:39

.........and then I will feel better!

OH (who, poor chap has PD and is and always has been anxious and obsessional) is driving me completely round the bend today!! I usually let it all wash by me, but not today!

Whatever we do or whatever I suggest we might do (he of course never suggests we do anything as it might take him out of his extremely tiny comfort zone!) the response is a frown, a couple of minutes total silence, and then the immortal and oft-repeated words "Well of course, the problem is............." Fill in the dots as you will, but make sure it is a complete list!

The hard drive on my laptop crashed and he offered to buy me a new one as a combined anniversary and birthday present - so far, so nice. It has arrived, and needless to say, there are going to be a whole raft of problems that would never have occurred to me and that necessitate days of detailed research online, emails and many phone calls to various nerds in order to avoid the myriad pitfalls that might result from just charging it up, switching it on and following the onscreen instructions.

I know from past history that this will involve him going around for several weeks with a frown on his face - what it will not do is result in me being able to touch the d* thing without his explicit say-so for some months to come, as I "do not understand the problems" - too blooming right I don't!!!

Sigh!

He's very nice in other ways of course, but I do spend a huge amount of time taking deep breaths and counting to ten at the very least!

Gally Wed 23-Oct-13 18:51:40

No I don't feel bad. The late MrG used to drive me nuts on occasion too. Just saying.....

LizG Wed 23-Oct-13 19:31:09

Sorry ladies I have just come in from childminding and have only read the OP so if my response is totally out of place now I do apologise. You could have been writing about my OH Mishap I dread having any new technology for that very reason.

wisewoman Wed 23-Oct-13 20:15:36

thatbags indeed Apple, Apple, Apple. Take it out of the box and switch it on. Hurrah. flowers to you mishap. You deserve to explode from time to time and gransnet is just the place for it.

Deedaa Wed 23-Oct-13 20:44:24

What are you doing with my husband Mishap ? I never use the computer unless he is here, because I never know what he will have done to it now!!! Now and again he suggests that I should go to computer lessons, but I know there's no point - he would just contradict everything I was taught and I'd end up more confused than ever.

Galen Wed 23-Oct-13 21:19:13

A s a widow. I have learnt to mainly do on my own! Gary (the Gardner) is great with helping me with things like meter reading (physically impossible for me) and doing any heavy lifting etc. he's also good at putting things like electricity bills into comprehensible English for me!
I'm trying to do things on my own as much as I can but sometimes it does get on top of one!
On the whole though I manage!

tiggypiro Wed 23-Oct-13 21:28:39

Speaking as a divorced singleton all your stories only go to remind me why I don't miss him and why I love being on my own ! I can do just as I like and any mistakes I make are my own (though being a woman I don't make many !!)

Stansgran Wed 23-Oct-13 21:34:20

I do think we should try role reversal every so often in an unequal marriage. I did absolutely everything beforeDH retired. Now he does all the finances ,car related rubbish,and I make a point of not being around when window cleaners and tradesmen need paying so he now is appalled to know that someone has to make sure a cheque is written or money is in the house. I haven't got as far as the utility room yet but he hasn't been retired that long and we do bicker over the groceries. The washing machine next year.

annodomini Wed 23-Oct-13 22:11:40

tiggy me too. smile

moomin Wed 23-Oct-13 22:17:39

grin absent

Tegan Wed 23-Oct-13 22:20:34

Does anyone watch that sketch in The Ginger, The Geordie and The Geek where they try to understand women?

Maniac Wed 23-Oct-13 22:22:18

Me too tiggy and anno a lot to be said for living alone when I hear the exasperated tales from married friends.
smile

harrigran Wed 23-Oct-13 23:06:44

Tegan I love that show grin

Tegan Wed 23-Oct-13 23:14:03

harrigran; thank goodness..I thought I was the only person in the country watching it. It's the funniest thing I've seen for years. It makes me cry with laughter.

Faye Wed 23-Oct-13 23:14:40

I am with you tiggy, anno and maniac. I enjoy these stories and love a good laugh, yours really set me off absent. grin

harrigran Wed 23-Oct-13 23:34:03

I love the sketch where the nuns stamp sinner on the forehead. The chap on the bus with the ipod especially, oh how I long to do that sometimes grin

Tegan Thu 24-Oct-13 00:00:49

Supposedly they've been appearing at The Fringe for years. Wish I'd seen them there. Remind me of early Harry Enfield. The ventriloquist dummie one I find strangely fascinating albeit a tad creepy. Love the tooth fairy and Santa.

harrigran Thu 24-Oct-13 12:00:31

Wish I had known about them earlier. To see a Geordie in a tutu is such a laugh, most men up here would run a million miles rather than be seen like this.