Just let me explode..........

Totally different scenario Mishap but I pointed out to my son on one of his rare visits that my kitchen telly couldn't get some channels. After he left I realised that he'd 'looked at it' and, guess what; no channels at all and no idea when I'll be visited again. Then get annoyed with myself for a]being a slave to so many gadgets and b]not being able to fix things myself. Nearly threw my pooter out of a window several years ago when it stopped working .

Sounds very similar to my OH Mishap!! I want a new lap top for Christmas, but I have told him he can have NOTHING to do with it. My DD will choose it and set it up for me, otherwise I will not see it for weeks and it will all be so complicated. He can never make an instant decision, every thing has to be researched and thought about and it too drives me mad. Even a simple question like "what would you like for supper?" gets great consideration and the answer is always "I don't know as I am not hungry yet". As if I can wait 'till just before supper to decide. I too am very good at counting to ten. Grrrr ;) xx

Fortunately for me DH knows very little about computers and asks me if anything goes wrong! I usually solve it by emailing DS! But I do understand the problems as we can rarely decide to do anything within the house which is not thought about for a few weeks. I have got to the stage now where I actually say ' here is something for you to mull over'. The current mulling is about which coat to wear when we go to USA next week.

I like that Bez.
I'm just about to go into B&Q to get some colour cards so we can spend the next two months deciding what colour to paint the hall
Commiserations mishap!

Ah, sweet Apple. Charge up and go.

mishap

And from me, too.

Not sure if I would have the patience, tbh.

I get this kind of thing too.

Recently I decided I couldn't stand the shilly-shallying any more and now I just firmly take control and say something like, don't worry about it, I'll decide/take care of it/know what to do etc.

DH usually agrees, feeling relieved. Don't know if the technique would work for anyone else.

Sounds familiar to me *nanapug". I get a slight variation on the theme. If I ask Mr Gaga what he would like for dinner the usual reply is "anything". One of these days I'll give him some bird food and see if that fits (or fills!) the bill.

Oh Mishap!

Me and my old sit-up-and-beg computer understand one another. Behaves perfectly for my needs on the whole. However, if and when it does behave in ways which I don't understand, I KNOW Mr. P has been using it. I screech - he pops his head around the door and says "...ah, yes, just give me 5 mins ...." I groan. It's going to be longer.

He has a newish, wizz-bang ipad thingy - so I'd really rather he kept his hands off my old dear.

I lust for a sweet Apple.

Explode away Mishap - better to explode at us than DH.

I used to be really decisive but I've caught indecision from DH. When we decorated we bough 14 matchpots most of which were a variation on cream. DD1 is always grateful for our indecision as she uses them to do big art things for school and for murals in the children's bedrooms.

Thanks goodness mr.glamma does not have a clue which key to press to start up lap-top or tablet,he must be a one off my hubby as he will eat anything put out in front of him I never ever have to ask him what he wants for mealtimes,I choose the colours for decoration and he enjoys doing the work for me he is so laid back he is horizontal some times,as long as he has a constant supply of his favourite choc's and biscuits he is easily pleased.

Flipping heck!

We bought 14 matchpots

DD1 is always grateful for our indecision as she uses the matchpots.......................

Kitty

Mishap Take it to somewhere else and get them to fix it. is there a reputable local computer shop nearby?

Oh Dear I thought it might be just me but DH has recently (or I have just begun to notice) been talking to me as though I am a total incompetent!

Things like telling me to drink my tea before it gets cold and today, on a trip up to town, he told me to remember to take my ticket out of the barrier machine . I find it extremely irritating and he can't see why..he thinks he is being helpful

Everything glamma said I know I'm very lucky. He also lets me decide where to go on holiday.

I am constantly amazed by the assumption that some tasks are "masculine"and some feminine" - and have to admit I go along with it. mostly because I haven't got the energy to resist.
Masculine tasks:
computer,TV, DVD player, anything to do with finance, the telephone, major decisions re furniture, decorating, garden decisions, decisions about gadgets or tools for the house (despite the fact he is totally clueless in all matters practical, insurance, legal things.
Female tasks:
cooking, shopping choosing meals, laundry, mending, finding his socks/pants/shirts, domestic machinery, anything to do with the DC and the DGC, feeding the dog, knowing where pots, pans serving dishes etc go - in fact anything to do with the kitchen - dates of anniversaries, birthdays, addresses of friends (cards for the use of)
Of course for matters of IT one needs a 7 year-old DGS or a practical SIL to whom he might defer.

Oh forgot to add navigation as something only a man is capable of. Today I nearly lost it when I said "Do I go left here?" getting the answer "Yes" and was then told to go straight on as well/instead.

Oh well - at least you have OH's to complain about! I have to wait for DD3 to sort out all my little technical problems; she was last here in July and hopefully will be here again for 2 days in November. I am becoming quite good at winging it and also learning how to read complicated directions, although not quite competent enough to follow them.....

Hmm..my DH does everything (except cooking... though he claims he can!)

Am I grateful? No I am not because he really is not that brilliant at any of it!

He likes everything done on his timescale so if I am having a cuppa, reading or still in the shower and he feels there is washing /cleaning to be done he does it. Everything gets bunged in the machine and washed at any random temperature, hung up in ways that require severe ironing later. I can't recall how many items of clothing have been spoiled. I now do not put things in the wash basket if I think it needs special care! He puts the washing away any old how into my drawers..does not even match the colours.. and stuffs things into cupboards to make everywhere look tidy..just don't tryto get stuff out of a cupboard. Gosh I am a miserable old

Sorry Gally and all other widows - a bit tactless to moan on when we still have them , but I c ould have wept yesterday when I came back from a nice day out with DD's MIL- bit of shopping, bit of lunch, cup of tea and a bun, you get the idea.
When I got home about 5.30 DH had not even given the dog her lunch but had treated himself to a fry-up after my cleaner had been so I had to clean the top of the cooker yet again.

Look I would miss him loads if he was not here,but he can still drive me nuts!

Would be just as difficult for widows if we eulogised our DHs! none of us are posting here to make others feel bad so sorry if that is what had happened.

I have to solve my own problems, though ex-OH would have been no practical use. If I can't do something, I have to get someone in to do it - usually a man!

Pernstemmon I have one of those. Following the six o'clock news – which we both watch – he will tell me what has been happening in the world. He, who has never had any children, tells me how to "deal with" my grandchildren when they are misbehaving. However, worst of all, he will start giving me instructions about how to cook. I have spent nearly 40 years writing cookbooks and he had never cooked anything until he met me. We have now had potatogate when I threw the mashed potato in the bin, shepherds pie gate when I threw the shepherds pie at him, soupgate when I threw the soup down the sink and complete dinnergate when I threw his dinner out the window.