If you feel bullied

I see what you mean Merlot I was not thinking straight.

I don't get emails to tell me I have a PM and one can sit in my inbox for days before I spot it. So I often tell people I've PMd them so they can check. There's nothing sinister about it, in fact it's upfront.

Those who see it as something sinister make me wonder?????

Sinister? That's a bit OTT

Nellie

I informed someone on a thread that I had sent them a pm. The only reason I said so on the thread is that I rarely check my own inbox and as the person concerned was either new or had not posted much I was concerned that she wouldn't see the message.

It certainly wouldn't have occurred to me that this could be construed as being secretive or self important

Blimey! this "pm" business --storm in a teacup springs to mind

Hey just because your paranoid doesn't mean people aren't talking about you behind your back

Baubles I haven't PMd you (so no need to check your inbox)

You're ....

I haven't PMd you either whitewave

Perhaps I'll PM myself though

I think that's already been said, whitwave! (or words to that effect...)

Time to let the dogs out

Good

whitwave??? Sorry about that...

Durhamjen, perhaps one of the frustrations of Gransnet is that so many of us are set on our tramlines that whatever we post makes no impression on people with whom we disagree, so some people resort to personal sniping. Contrary views have to be expressed, to maintain balance, but so often nothing is achieved. Just like the House of Commons!

Good point, grumps. Perhaps expressing our views on GN helps to clarify them to ourselves. That's something of an achievement in itself at times

Nelliemoser, there is nothing wrong with that at all. But not all PMs are the same...

I was on another Forum where the women, including the mods, mocked one of the men for months, and even colluded to entrap him but setting bait posts- but when I objected, I was banned... Won't say more about pm's here, but not far off. Last post on the subject.

I use pms sparingly, but was taken aback when I received an abusive message from a poster, since banned. If it was an attempt to bully me, it failed.

I don't know what those who send abusive PMs think they are going to gain by it. They should know that they will be blocked and banned. It must be a mental aberration that drives them.

The few I have received have always been pleasant and supportive.

I think when people PM'd their support it was because they were uncomfortable with putting their heads above the parapet when things were getting unpleasant. I can understand that. Therefore someone who felt embattled might comment that they had lots of supportive PMs.

Exactly

Just heard an Obama quote "You can disagree without being disagreeable" Like it.