Should I apologise ?

Like many of you ,we had a small but very happy wedding. No stag or hen nights. Flowers were restricted to just bride and bridesmaids plus Grooms buttonhole. I made my own cake, probably not the most professional but it tasted devine. We spent the 3 years before saving for a deposit on our first home. The only time we went anywhere other than just meeting up with friends was for birthdays. My first new outfits in that time was my bridal gown and going away outfit.Our house was furnished with hand me downs. The dining table and chairs passed on by my in-laws lasted us 30 years.

When our girls were small days out were at the park or the river with a fishing net, ball games and picnics. If we went shopping in town, no coffees or meals out, we would take sandwiches. These are times they talk of fondly and say the don't remember what clothes or gadgets they had , but, they always knew we were there and would play with them.

I think much of the struggle that occurs today is because there is far more belief that it is material goods that bring happiness.

Hi ginny the problem now is that there is so much political correctness (pc) you are frightened to open your mouth. Why can't we be proud to be British and proud of our country and proud that we have worked, raised our children and perhaps own our own house.

The trouble with the young ones now (some of them) they want everything when they want it and get themselves into debt, instead of thinking I will save up for that and make do with what I've got for the time being.

What a shame that some feel the need to blame us because we have worked hard and been independent.

We had to save with a building society for 2 years before they would even consider us for a mortgage.

No central heating in our first house.

No carpets, tiles downstairs and floorboards upstairs.

Any cast off furniture was gratefully accepted, no cheap Ikea available in those days.

Telephone? When we finally got one it was a party line and we had to make sure the other party wasn't using it before making a call. Calls were much more expensive too.

Nurseries, what nurseries? If I'd wanted to go back to work after having a child there would have been no one to look after it.

Going out to eat? Birthdays or celebrations only.

DH used to repair our car, he was always patching up the rust in those day and on one occasion took out an engine and replaced it with a reconditioned one. He is not a natural engineer!

No, I don't think we had it easier than they do today, just different.

I remember when I used to go to tea at my friend's house that the person who had the last piece of bread and butter was wished 'A thousand a year and a handsome husband'. Anyone else remember that? It seemed such a lot to wish for.

I does seem unfair that we are not given credit for our ability to live frugally and save enough for a decent retirement. I have never been extravagant - small wedding, homemade clothes, making do and mending, etc. I shudder at the amount spent on weddings, clothes and "must have" items of some of today's youngsters. They don't seem to appreciate the pleasures to be had from working for something and then finally achieving a goal. I still can't bear to throw away food or indeed anything I can recycle in some way.
As a retired teacher I often get "oh, you'll have a huge pension then" which I find annoying as I actually get less in teacher's pension than I do in state pension. However, I seem to have plenty as I still have modest needs. Happiness isn't having a lot of money - it's having enough money. However, you need to know when enough is enough.

In the 70s I made patchwork curtains for the nursery from cut up old clothes and papered my little boy's bedroom with cut out comic strip cartoons. The day I got my first front loader washer, my friend came round and we drew up two chairs and sat and marvelled at it. I stayed at home for 9 years to give my kids a start and made my own clothes and took holidays in Wales - one week in a rented caravan. My Dad serviced my very old car and I saved up the Family Allowance to buy the children's clothes. Us baby boomers - we had it so good!

I noticed on Call The Midwife last Sunday that Chummy said she was going to get out the Twin Tub. A newly married couple with a twin tub in the 1950s?? My mother had a single tub with an electric wringer until the mid sixties.

We bought our first automatic washing machine in 1972. I was terribly excited and then bitterly disappointed that whereas I could do a whole week's wash in one session with the twin tub, I waited ages for just the children's clothes to be done in the front loader. The rest had to wait for another day.

merlot, didn't Chummy come from a rather affluent background? My Mum kept the twin tub until she died in 1983, staunchly refusing to have an automatic. After she died, Dad went shopping and got himself a small automatic.

Well, I do think I was lucky compared with my own children and especially grandchildren.

Also more fortunate than the previous generation who had wars to fight in.

I don't think you can count things like making our own clothes and using Baby Burcos. Everyone did it then.

I would hate to go back to all that, and equally would hate my own children to have to scrape and save, although, to be honest, they do, in their own way. You cannot compare peaches and grapes (or something like that.)

We were poor but we were happy?
It was all character building?

No - but looking back makes me realise how lucky I am now. Which, I suppose, means that I have earned it all. Worked up to 12 / 15 hours a day once I got cracking. And my DC are doing that too.

She did, anno Sensible girl if she plundered her trust fund for a twin tub

My parents had a Bendix washing machine in the late 50s. Not sure whether it was automatic or semi, but it was concreted into the kitchen floor to stop it wandering!

I was married late - well, 29. I told ex-H that I hadn't worked all those years to have anything but an automatic washer.

I do not know what PC you mean ninny in context of Ginny's post.

I don't think we were particularly different in the UK . Women across Europe, US, Canada, Australia etc etc also mended and made do! In many places in the world they still do and far more. So I am not sure there is anything to be especially proud of. People lived there lives in the context of that particular era. There were still rich and poor, good, bad etc.

Life and expectations were different, some things better some things not.

My own children have worked hard and been fortunate to have been able to buy homes with their partners & have work that pays enough to live reasonably comfortable lives now. However I do worry for their old age as I think pensions for them will be minimal and they have no 'spare' to save!

penstemmon not sure there is any point in them saving anyway. My savings are not keeping pace with inflation! I think that at some point in the not too distant future there will have to be a big shake up of some sort as there seems very little point in providing for your future at the moment unless you are one of the very few who has a final salary pension which is inflation linked.

We oldies must not only apologise for being a drain on the NHS but should have our records stamped DO NOT RESUSCITATE as soon as we hit 55. Britain is broke and young families are surviving on food banks. The bankers aren't going to help so I feel I'd better go now, before I need the doctor more than once in two years. They can recycle my artificial hip afterwards.