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ninathenana Sat 22-Feb-14 16:56:08

Sadly our lovely neighbour passed away last weekend. She shared a house with her brother who is in his eighties and is living with dementia. There are no other relatives.The problem is he is still driving and we and our other neighbours don't think he's safe. I followed him home from town a couple of days ago, it was a hairy experience!!
Our other neighbour has suggested to him that it's time to stop but he won't listen.
Would you report him to DVLA ?

whenim64 Sun 23-Feb-14 11:02:39

My daughter's elderly neighbour, when backing his car off their shared driveway, careered into my daughter's conservatory at the back of her house, and demolished it (soon dealt with amicably). He was very distressed and decided there and then he would not drive again. Sadly, a week later, he died. All concerned were sure it was the shock of having this accident that caused his death.

I guess for this neighbour's sake, let alone any potential victims of an accident, his competence to continue driving needs to be addressed. How would he cope with being interviewed in a police station, or being arrested after an accident? It's sad to think that something so traumatic could happen in his last years of life.

TriciaF Sun 23-Feb-14 11:13:32

Perhaps it's time to have obligatory driving tests after ?70 .This wouldn't be popular but with people living longer, maybe necessary.
I'm over 70 and have thought of having a few driving lessons to correct careless habits.

newist Sun 23-Feb-14 11:30:54

I have had experience of this dilemma in the past 2 years.
It is an offence not to report it to the DVLA once a diagnoses is given, this carries a fine of £1000 as well as invalidating insurance. I know this because I had to look it all up, in light of a friend being diagnosed with dementia, the difference in this case is it was the wife who delayed her husband getting a diagnoses because she could not drive!!! Even when the doctor told him not to drive, she kept saying "as long as I am next to him he is safe", They continued to drive for 6 months after the diagnoses until the licence was physically removed, by the police

ninathenana Sun 23-Feb-14 13:56:06

newist I agree that's the way it should be. But being a member of Alzhimers Talking Point forum I know that not all demetia sufferers seek or indeed are even given a confirmed diagnosis.

newist Sun 23-Feb-14 14:28:41

It is a sad situation, The consultant asked them how they got to the appointment, they said, they had driven there, He then said "on no account should he drive home because of the severity of his condition". His wife decided he was safe to do so, so he drove them both home