DH and I are tarting up a couple of pieces of garden furniture for an elderly neighbour. She discussed it with DH even though I was there but I didn't think anything of it at the time. I stained some wooden furniture whilst DH sanded a metal arch/chair thingy and told her I'd be putting at least two coats on etc. When DH started painting the metal thingy he found the fumes got on his chest so I have taken over that too. Our neighbour has seen me doing the painting.
Yesterday she proceeded to have a long conversation with DH whilst I was painting a couple of feet away in which she spoke as if he'd done all the work himself, ever telling him what a good job he was doing.
I think I've either become invisible or I'm DH's double 
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who said that? ....
No. She just can't bring herself to discuss such stuff with a woman. After all everyone knows that DIY is man's work ....you only have to ask my mum
But - she is a woman Vampire and is discussing DIY! . 
Well done anyway taking over - that was very kind of you.
Mum would always be full of praise for any woman tackling DIY or car maintenance etc., but her highest compliment would be, 'She's a lad!' 
I love DIY esp decorating. I had to learn to do things when I was with ex because he wouldn't do anything. DH moved in with tools I didn't know existed. Such fun when he lets me play with them
The only problem is that he won't let me sort them out. Why doesn't he keep all the screwdrivers together or all the allen keys? He seems to spread them through the boxes (yes boxes ...there are so many tools) although I have to admit he can put his hand anything but there doesn't seem to be any order.
I was once told (by another man) that a man's toolbox is sacrosanct and I should keep my tidying hands to myself
My OH has many boxes, baskets, bags and shelves full of tools plus a couple of chests of drawers. His workshop is 9M x 3M the walls are lined with shelves floor to ceiling and all are full. He also has things in the garage and the area he built on the side to be his workshop! He has a huge workbench in the centre of the main workshop and this has his pillar drill and various saws on it plus he has other things such as planer thicknessers packed back in their boxes in the other place - called the 'snug'. And he tells me I need to get rid of things as we have too many plates - but they mainly fit in one cupboard!! I ignore him!
bez my OH is one of those ... my stock response when he starts rooting through my "kitchen toolbox" for stuff that needs throwing out is to stroll into the garage and 
touch his tools!
His work shop used to be tad of a mess grannykn but one day he was searching for something when I suggested as he had all these spare shelves he lined the workshop and put stuff all together. Much to my amazement he went out and started it straight away and then admitted it was great being able to find things most of the time and acted as if it was his idea to do the sorting! He even started showing his friends when they came!!! When he starts complaining I usually start saying things like - pot, kettle, black - go and have a sort out - soon stops!
VampireQ you keep on playing with your DH's tools after all what's his is yours etc.
My mother always talks to the men, or asks the women if they are OK when we are in a family group. We find it quite amusing and I have always assumed it is partly her upbringing and also the joy of being in mixed company. Even at 94 that is probably a nice change.
However, I seem, occasionally, to be invisible to automatic doors, even when I walk right up to them. I do find that worrying 
and do hope I am not, now, a figment of my own imagination 
I've had that disconcerting experience too Gracesgran!
Once I actually had to wait until someone approached the door from the other side to get out of the shop...got strange looks
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