Do you have any secrets from your other half?

This seems to me a very minor transgression! - do not beat yourself up.

In the main I do not have any secrets from my OH, although I must admit to referring to a new outfit as "What - this old thing?" on one occasion.

Not generally, no, although I will go to some lengths to try to keep some things as a surprise!

I think that what you describe may fall into the category of doing the "wrong" thing (i.e not being up-front about your mince substitute) for the "right" reason, therefore no blame, no guilt, job's a good 'un, as they say!

I would have said not but I remember now that, a few months ago, he discovered my hoard of bags in a cupboard under the spare bed.

Crikey! I thought this thread was going to be about a secret lover or hidden bank account not....mince!!

And I have this vision of a hoard of Tesco carrier bags under the bed...

Or bags of toffee!

I do lots of that sort of thing, you are not alone. DBH is a food snob, so I often buy cheap stuff and pop it in bags from somewhere else, he never notices. If I should die suddenly, he is going to wonder how on earth I ever managed to feed us as cheaply as I do. I used to do the soya mince things decades ago, it was so much cheaper. Now we rarely eat mince, but I buy very cheap coffee, make my own washing liquid but put it in old containers after he said mine wasn't as good, decant cheap biscuits into jars so that he won't notice, all that sort of thing. My very best one I think was when I cut out the Tesco labels in his new white shirts and sewed in some M&S ones I had saved for the purpose.

Oh that's nothing! (OP) I have much more exciting secrets that I keep from DH. Mostly monetary. Not my fault if he can't understand online banking.

I peel prices off stuff from the garden centre and get rid of till receipts from supermarkets. DH tends to live in the past pricewise

Same here, jingl. If DH is happy to leave it all to me.......

#morefoolhim

Wow stillhere that's beyond the call of wifely duty, replacing clothes labels!
DH knows better than to question, not that I have any secrets I can think of.

I do the same Bellanonna but that's not keeping it secret is it? again more because he's got no idea about the price of anything.

He does say that as I earn my money then it's up to me what I spend it on and I do pay for virtually everything anyway!

If my ex ever commented another new outfit I gave the usual response this old thing .... I've had for ages.

Still I chuckled at the lengths you go to

But on a serious note, why do you have to do all that? I would resent having to keep up the pretence.

Of course I do.

I am off to Barcelona with DD2 today. DH has no idea how much we paid for our (Business Class ) tickets, or for the very well reviewed hotel we will be staying in.

(Actually, I don't think he'd really mind if he did know. But there would be the mandatory grumble)

Like M0nica always have, but as his memory span is now measured in minutes I no longer have to bother and a great relief that part of Alzheimer's is! I assure you there is the odd light moment.

Just laughing because this thread has come up right next to the "Have you bought anything new this week" one
Nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more!

One area where I have no secrets, is over what I buy, birthday and Christmas run-ups the temporary exceptions.

I have always earned my own income, paid for my own pension, state and occupational, so once I have set aside my transfer to the household funds the rest is mine to spend as I like - and the same applies to DH.

jing and me

Oh yes but I cant say what or it wouldn't be a secret anymore.

Have a lovely time jingl!

I don't think so but there are things he doesn't know about before we met. I think he thinks I had a much wilder time than I actually did.

Mostly I don't bother to tell him things which wouldn't interest him.

It seems most of the above issues are to do with money but that is something we never disagree about as he leaves it all to me. Maybe that is because we have always only ever had a joint bank account so no 'his' or 'hers'. I suspect he still thinks you can buy a pair of shoes for 59/11 so accepts that all clothes shopping is beyond him!

I even told him about an ex-boyfriend who has tracked me down and is now a Facebook friend. No point in keeping secrets from him, trust is really important to us both.

Sorry to be serious about a flippant thread.

I don't because I HATE having things kept from me.