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Don't call him babe!

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grapefruit Wed 18-Nov-15 20:46:37

My son brought his girlfriend to visit us last weekend. She's seems quite nice and although this is only the third time we've met her, we get on quite well. But I couldn't help noticing how often she called him 'babe'. Every sentence started with. 'But, babe, we should go out now' or whatever. Drove me mad! I really had to bite my tongue to keep from shouting, 'His name is Gareth!!'

rosesarered Wed 18-Nov-15 20:50:51

grin annoying isn't it? We have a thread going, words that should be banned, where a poster says that women calling hulking great men 'babe' should be banned, I think you may agree with that.

loopylou Wed 18-Nov-15 20:54:02

It's like fingernails on a blackboard, it sets my teeth on edge!

ninathenana Wed 18-Nov-15 21:02:29

gringrin DD calls her SO hunni almost as annoying.
He has a pet name for her too.

merlotgran Wed 18-Nov-15 21:13:24

We have a friend who calls his wife 'Darl' (short for darling) When we first got to know them I though he was calling her 'Doll' which seemed really spivvy for a vicar grin

Iam64 Thu 19-Nov-15 07:58:42

I've come to quite enjoy "babe" - it's a youth thing and as long as it's done with warmth and happiness, it's fine by me.
Mind you, it does remind me of that film with the pig…..

janeainsworth Thu 19-Nov-15 08:18:36

Leave them alone! Young love!
[soppy heart emoticon]

Marmight Thu 19-Nov-15 08:38:10

My Ozzie son-in-law calls DD 'babe'. You get used to it.....[sigh emoticon]

WilmaKnickersfit Thu 19-Nov-15 08:53:51

I quite like 'babe'. In fact, I like it when any term of endearment is used between couples. Not so keen when used in other circumstances. smile

feetlebaum Thu 19-Nov-15 09:16:16

Oh come on - Oliver Norvell Hardy was known to all and sundry as 'Babe'...

gillybob Thu 19-Nov-15 09:51:08

Babe is just another term of endearment. Much on the lines of Love, Honey,Pet, Flower, Sugar etc.

Personally I have never felt comfortable using any of them but each to their own. DH and I are very boring and always call each other by our names. to our faces anyway

downtoearth Thu 19-Nov-15 10:26:15

OH calls me babe ,have got used to it now but used to cringe in public as being 20 years older no way am I a babegrin but he isnt well now with a crippling depression and he dosent call me anything anymore as he is so poorly and guess what I miss it sad

I use terms of endearment to my son and GD ,my OH looks like a character from Eastenders and have always called him that and never his given name,but never darling or babe.

Teetime Thu 19-Nov-15 10:46:22

I am guilty of Darling- ing my family and sweethearting- ing children. When I was nursing I was really cross if any of my staff called patients by endearments instead of by the names they wished to be known by and was well known for stopping the practice dead in its tracks.

NotSpaghetti Thu 19-Nov-15 11:06:15

downtoearth -
So sorry to hear about your husband.
Expect all the little irritations of 'ordinary life' are longed for when you are supporting someone you love through a deep depression.
I hope you are able to have some respite as it must be exhausting and lonely.

Those of us who are currently irritated by little things should be more thankful that we don't have bigger things wearing us out. (lesson to self)
I hope things improve soon

Matella Thu 19-Nov-15 11:22:17

Sorry for your worries downtoearth. Hope things look up for you soon. sunshine

I too cringe if my OH calls me babe in public, and indeed if he shows signs of affection sometimes!

It's true we should not let silly things irritate us and deep down i'm sure we are grateful for what we have. We are just human and I for one am sometimes just a grump! grin

David1968 Thu 19-Nov-15 11:23:30

I often call my DH "Babe"! But usually when we're on our own. I agree with "Iam64" - surely loving endearments are a good thing? Perhaps it grates (for "grapefruit") because the couple in question have not been together long? Is it easier to accept pet names (used by couples) when they've been together for some time? Just a thought!

Persistentdonor Thu 19-Nov-15 11:25:50

I often address my sons, (in their 30's,) as Babe. I get told off by their respective partners.....
"He's MY babe, he's YOUR son."
On the contrary I reply, "He's MY Babe, he's YOUR boyfriend!!"
Good job we are friends!! :D

graninthemist Thu 19-Nov-15 12:44:05

In Stoke-onTrent, where I was born, people refer to their nearest and dearest, and often complete strangers as "duck". I no longer live there, but I love to hear this friendly greeting whenever I visit. The Potteries people are very warm-hearted. I am not quite so pleased by the use of " babe".

harrigran Thu 19-Nov-15 14:04:03

Have always called DH Angel and GC are often sweetheart. I know I have slipped up when I call to DH, when we are out and about, and he gives me that horror stricken look.

Greyduster Thu 19-Nov-15 16:12:13

I always call my grandson Babe, or Cake (don't ask!). I have no objections to pet names but an assistant in a supermarket called me 'sweetie' recently. I was most annoyed. I've never been a sweetie, am not a sweetie now and there is no possibility of me turning into one in the future. But I didn't say that to her smile.

KatyK Thu 19-Nov-15 16:25:31

M DD and SIL are both in their 40s and always refer to each other as babe confused A double glazing salesman (a young man) came to our door a while ago and when I said I didn't need any windows he said 'no worries babes'. I was rather pleased to be called babes at 66 grin

jeberdes83 Thu 19-Nov-15 16:40:52

My DIL calls my son Bokkie.

grandMattie Thu 19-Nov-15 17:50:48

I'm guilty of calling my ££ year old son "Baby" or "babe"... he will say "Me babe or him babe" as I also call his son, my DGS, babe, too... no-one else tho'. the rest are called "darling" "Sweetie" or various other endearments, including "fatso" for the (thin) DGS.

SusanCh Thu 19-Nov-15 18:35:33

Not a name I'd call someone else, but babe doesn't really bother me. "Pet" is the one I don't like. Many years ago it was my father in law's name for me. I hated it but never said anything - it was his way of showing affection.

ninathenana Thu 19-Nov-15 19:15:29

I'm guessing your FiL was a Northerner Susan