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I hope it comes right for all of you in the end.

To me, the issue is what will genuinely help your son. Having him to live with you in the past has not improved the situation at all, so what would be different this time? Offering a choice between six weeks counselling or being sectioned seems odd - but maybe being sectioned would be a route to him getting - or accepting - the help he needs. Sometimes "helping" is not actually helpful and tough love is needed.

Gosh Mirryben you have got a lot on your plate. You need to look after yourself if you are going to be able to support your Mum,your sister, your daughter getting married,your husband and your other children. You cannot makes things right for them all so you can only do your best and life is a compromise. Did your son work until he was 26? Has he drug or alcohol problems? Can you offer to help him sign on? I believe it starts with a phone call. Should he be on sickness benefit? Does he need a sick note from his GP? I think it would be disastrous if you allowed him to live with you from the small amount of info you have told us.You would be living on tenterhooks. Things may have to get worse for him before they get better for him. You can support him but cannot provide a solution to all his problems. Thinking of you and hope your daughter's wedding goes well.

As an aside, or maybe not, I dont think I would be moving house 21/2 weeks before a daughters' wedding.

Ha ha Obione. The move had to be now as it was the only opportunity to do so.(won't go into all that) In answer to other questions from people. My son has no drug or alcohol problems. He was suicidal, hence the councelling or section choice. Thank you for all the support and suggestions of where to get help.. your comments are much appreciated.

I feel for your son but can see it from your husband's view point. Your son tried to strangle him and left visible marks, he was lucky he did not go to the Police. I think you are right about enabling him, he does need to take responsibility for himself, and needs to be encouraged to contibute financially as you are on a low income. I also agree when you say you have responibility for your other children. I really feel for you, and your son, but he needs to get help and needs to realise that he should not expect to live off others. I wish you both well.