Girl Crushes

I have been very aware of some of my students having a crush on me throughout my long teaching career- both girl and boy crushes. It required very careful handling.

Some of my school friends had a 'pash' on the games mistress.

My nickname for her was 'grimmy'

#miserableface

I disagree with jinglebellfrocks about girl crushes being sexual. Mine were very much about wanting to be or to emulate the people I had crushes on - sex didn't come into it in any way whatsoever

When i was about 11 and went to a girls boarding school it was the thing to have a pash on an older girl or teacher. One of the first questions i was asked was 'who is your pash' and i thought one up fairly quickly (in order to fit in) - a rather gawky unprepossessing 6th form girl who I felt sorry for as no-one had chosen her!! There was a lot of silly nonsense including the end of term dance at Christmas where we all had a dance card and had to book partners for each dance in advance (all girls!) and we all plucked up courage to ask our pashes for a dance! This was supposed to prepare us for real life but was the first and last time i ever had a dance card! My present family all think its rather weird and suspect but it was just a bit of innocent fun and certainly not in the least sexual!

Not a crush, but I'd love to look like Anna Chancellor. She's a great actress, too.

Craftycat, surely she's forgiven now she's married to Rupert Murdoch?!

I must say, Kitspurr, I was a bit confused as to why the Anna Chancellor character in Four Weddings was known as Duckface.

I don't think it was actually 'Duckface', Maggie...

isnt it a natural part of growing up? For me it was ponies, then my very pretty geography teacher and then I suddenly discovered that boys were actually quite nice and so the ponies and the geography teacher were cast aside. I've always had lots of GalPals throughout my life and I love them dearly but 'crushes' were definitely relegated to my 12 year old state.
I also HATED Patti Boyd for getting George Harrison but I cackled like a witch when I saw her recently on tv - locked in time, stylewise, back in the sixties.

At 11 I was impressed with the 6 th formers. Nothing sexual GBF. I.do know.the difference. Now Ashley at confirmation class. He was so tall and knew all the answers. Phew.

To those who reckon it's nothing sexual, no different to wanting to emulate the other person, think back. Did your heart go fluttery when you passed them by in a corridor? Were you able to actually speak coherently to them? If you somehow got to dance with them in a country-dance lesson and their (overly large) bosom brushed against your semi flat chest, did you practically drop in a heap at their feet? And did you remember the moment for ever after?

No? Are you sure you had a crush?

What is GBF?

Well you are right jingle in my case ie fluttery and shy and excited if she spoke to me etc but it was thedone thing and was built up by others who also had similar rections. Really dont think it was sexual. I didnt know what sexal was at 11. I had heard of the mechanics of course and none of that appealed to me . However it does all sound weird to me now looking back and dont talk about it - except on anonymous websites! (Hero worship is more like it. )

11?!!! I was thinking 13/14/15.

Moira Shearer in Ballet Shoes - had a full page "Girl" comic picture on my bedroom wall.

No jingle by 14/15 i had a boyfriend and pictures of Dirk Bogarde and cliff Richard on my bedroom wall.

Yes, I think it's more usual in the first of second year of whatever type of school you went to.

When I was 11 or 12 there was one older girl I alway looked out for in Assembly. She must have been in the fourth or 5th year and was very pretty and a bit of a rebel (i.e. wore her regulation school hat at a bit of a rakish angle!). I admired her looks and her attitude, although she obviously knew she drew admiring glances from the juniors.

I saw her in the street once snogging a boy and being very silly and giggly, and went right off her!

Girl crushes are all part of growing up. My first crush was on my science teacher, a tall handsome young chap.

My second was on my male dentist (bit weird) and in between I had a crush on a female teacher who taught commercial subjects.

I had a few boyfriend but I found them annoying but compulsory to keep up with the other girls.

I often admired girls older than me who I thought were very mature and good looking.

At last at 18 I met my husband to be (sadly passed away) and at last I knew what love was.

On a bike ride once with a friend, when we were about ten or eleven, we waited outside the entrance to the farm where we knew the film star Richard Todd lived. When eventually he came striding down the lane we managed about two minutes before throwing ourselves on our bikes and pedalling hell for leather for the hills! Definitely had a little crush on him.

Anyone got any gransnet crushes? (Batts eyelashes....oh jings I think you're amazzzing .... swoon)

#that'llwindjingsup

I suppose my two sixth formers were pretty masculine looking (They always got the leading men parts in the school plays) and we didn't have any access to boys so they were the next best thing. Soon forgot them when I was let loose with real boys

piss off crafting

Of course when you are at a girls boarding school with all female teachers theres no-one else to ave crushes on. Its different at a mixed day school!

Glenda Jackson in the 70s. Maxine Peake now. I find strong women very attractive.