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In support of men

(31 Posts)
Tizliz Wed 11-Jan-17 19:49:38

I haven't been posting much lately as my OH has damaged a disc and can hardly walk. So I am having to do everything. It is only then you realise how much men do, from chopping veg for dinner (he is beginning to manage this again), to picking up after the dogs 🐶, putting the bins out (nearly got blown away today), helping Tesco delivery man/woman, locking up, opening garage door (I am too short). I now know I don't have the patience to be a full time carer.

So please get better soon I miss you

annsixty Wed 11-Jan-17 20:22:42

You are very lucky, I have to do all that, see thread on eliminating husbands and be thankful, be very thankful 😈

Grannyben Wed 11-Jan-17 20:23:05

Hope he's up and running again very soon flowers

annsixty Wed 11-Jan-17 20:28:42

I wasn't very kind or helpful there and I apologize. I really hope your H is soon well again😢

Greyduster Wed 11-Jan-17 21:08:20

Tizliz your OH has my sympathy. I slipped a disc in my early forties and if I thought childbirth was painful, I didn't know the half of it. Recovery is a slow process. It must be very frustrating for both of you.

Alima Wed 11-Jan-17 21:11:17

Yes Liz, do hope your DH is fully operational before too much longer. Lovely to see an appreciative thread on the OH, wondering if it reaches the same number of posts as the disposing of OH thread does.
As well as everything else my DH has a dodgy and very painful hip. His appointment with the consultant is not for another 44 days. Finding that I am doing a lot of what he normally does too though that is not a problem. It is the grumpy bad temper that is wearing me down. Well, suppose the old chap is in pain. Aaaaaargh!

Tizliz Wed 11-Jan-17 21:23:20

Yes, Alima I do have to grit my teeth sometimes, I know he is in pain but does he need to tell me so often.

rosesarered Wed 11-Jan-17 22:11:10

Tizliz if we are lucky enough to have good supportive DH's then we miss them very much when they are incapacitated in any way.
Hope he gets well soon.
Men find being confined to quarters with illness / accident very galling and do protest a lot.grin

Teetime Thu 12-Jan-17 09:42:45

I am very lucky apart from his loud coughs and sneezes DH is a lovely and had been great through my recent health scare. he does all the ironing, the hovering and 'heavy' housework, the gardening and decorating but does not cook. We have sorted out the division of labour over the years but it seems he is now doing far more than I am. Just recently two women of my acquaintance (1 widowed 1 divorced) went into an 'all men are b*****ds rant' in my presence and I spoke up loudly that this is definitely not the case.

KatyK Thu 12-Jan-17 10:38:47

I hope he gets better soon. My DH is a saint. How he puts up with me I'll never know. I am moody, miserable and anxious all the time. I have a 'poor me' attitude to life. He has had cancer, has diabetes, high cholesterol and high BP. I have never once heard him complain. I do appreciate him.

grannypiper Sun 15-Jan-17 10:03:58

A good man is one of lifes blessings and i am so blessed.Tizliz hope you have had time for brew&cupcake

NanaandGrampy Sun 15-Jan-17 10:07:08

Even though Grampy was one lambs leg away from an early demise- I value him endlessly. He does a great deal around our home, we are most definitely equal partners( although I am the Captain of the ship!) smile

I don't want to find out any time soon what life would be like without him . 40 years together is just the beginning x

downtoearth Sun 15-Jan-17 11:09:42

I have a salt of the earth partner....much younger than me he was with me shortly after getting together, when my daughter aged 23 died in suspicious circumstances,he welcomed my 4year old granddaughter,supported my shattered family and has bought E up as his own ( he dosent have children) for us has meant financial hardship due to this,he cared and supported me with mum during this time also until she died...he works 6 days a week to support us E is nearly 18..he is my friend and soul mate I love him dearly ..he is 20 years younger than me

downtoearth Sun 15-Jan-17 11:11:48

An unsung hero in my eyes...I always get tea in bed in the morning and help in the house as well sunshine

downtoearth Sun 15-Jan-17 11:14:40

We may not be married or everyone's idea of a perfect union..but what better way to demonstrate in sickness and health with out the vowssunshine

downtoearth Sun 15-Jan-17 11:17:56

Last year he was very unwell with depression and with medication he has fought his way back and supported me for 10 years with anxiety and depression alsosunshine

downtoearth Sun 15-Jan-17 11:18:48

Sorry for rattling on there are a lot of lovely men out there wine

NonnaW Sun 15-Jan-17 11:53:51

I too have a husband that is very much appreciated. He does all the cooking (currently in the kitchen making soup for lunch), drives everywhere even though I am capable and should do my share, does loads around the house, in fact he cannot sit for long. He has prostrate cancer and is undergoing hormone treatment and had radiotherapy last year, and has never once complained or felt sorry for himself. I am so lucky to have him.

Wobblybits Sun 15-Jan-17 12:24:06

OMG, have I stumbled into a parallel universe GN where men are appreciated ?

I do feel a fraud ATM, MrsP is having to do most things for me, along with a knackered hip I now have a frozen (or rotor cuff) shoulder and cannot lift anything with my left arm.

Bellasnana Sun 15-Jan-17 12:52:44

My DH also used to do so many things for me, many of which I took for granted. Like KatyK says, I have no idea how he put up with me for 36 years. He lived for his family and always tried to make everyone happy. Since his death, almost two years ago, I have realised just what a lot he took on his shoulders which I am now having to do for myself.

If you've got a loving DH, appreciate him before it's too late, nobody is perfect and we all have our annoying habits, but life without my DH has lost its sparkle.

Christinefrance Sun 15-Jan-17 13:12:06

Downtoearth you have a good man there, what great team work from the two of you.
I don't tell my husband often enough how much I care. He looks after me so well and we share our lives so easily. Of course we have our spats but as I am always right there is no real problem.
Seriously I do get a bit tired of hearing all the so called feminists constantly deriding men.

Riverwalk Sun 15-Jan-17 13:19:04

dte if DP has an available older brother kindly send him my way. wink

KatyK Sun 15-Jan-17 13:23:01

Bella flowers

TerriBull Sun 15-Jan-17 13:24:31

Men are sometimes maligned in the world of advertising it seems acceptable to portray them as lazy or daft maybe to address the balance of yesteryear when women were shown in a sexist way. Two wrongs don't make a right. I'm lucky to have married a man who certainly does his fair share around our house, unlike my father who did very little to help my mother with domestic chores.

Rinouchka Sun 15-Jan-17 13:27:16

I hope you DH gets better soon, Tizliz and welcome this positive thread.

My OH is a poor patient but wonderful in (almost) every other way.
He is the opposite of me in character but very hands on with anything that needs doing, except cooking. I also notice all he does when he's away! praise of good men!! wine