Presents for Adult Working Grandchildren

I see a lot of people advocate finishing present giving at 18 I can understand that for your extended family nieces nephews etc especially if they aren't close but children and grandkids are part of you for ever I can't visualise not wanting to give my precious kids a birthday and C... present just because they are grown up
I gave my mum and dad presents until the day they died and they me in fact my dad died two weeks afer my birthday I kept the money he gave me for about three years before I could bear to spend it the card with his last message to me is on my bedroom wall

Thank you for all the answers. I have decided to go with vouchers and reduced the amount.

Niece/nephews I stopped gifts when they reached 18. When I had contact with eldest son and his children I gave him a smaller gift than before the children came along, the children had more but still kept the costs down to a sensible amount for them too.

My younger son gets a birthday and christmas present as he is still single. He earns a lot more than I do but as I only buy for him and a small gift for my Dad these days it's not a great spend. Myself and OH don't buy for each other.

I stopped sending anything to my niece when I telephoned to ask if she had received her card and money (why do we do this when they should be contacting us as a thank you ! ) and asked if she had a nice day of had anything planned and she replied ' What's it to do with you ! Ah well money saved.

I stopped when nieces and nephews started earning, and told them I'd help out buying something for their first home etc, which to a certain extent I have done, but this is more to do with need than equality.
Now they have children of their own, it's starting over again, which is great as so far I have a relationship with each child. Not sure how I'd feel if I'd never met the child, say they were in USA

I only have one 2 year old grandchild but innumerable nephews and nieces. They all get £10 for birthdays and Christmas which rises to £20 when they reach 18 and finishes with £100 on their 21st. After that it's a card. They all know and all are extremely appreciative, especially the step children. After 21 they know not to expect anything, my pension is finite but their numbers keep increasing. (smile)

Absolutely not. A gift, regardless of age is a good and happy gesture from one to another for what ever reasoning. You don't need to spend the same but rather something that is personal to each one. Adults still love getting gifts. Even a gift of a family gathering is so lovely. Don't stop giving if you can and enjoy doing so.

I have never been one to spend fortunes on birthdays or at Christmas...even when they were young. I have now decided on £20 for my three children, their partners and my six grandchildren. The younger four get gifts and the older two get money. I have spent more on my eldest daughter this birthday...she is 40 today A gift and money.

No grandchildren, but I stopped giving birthday and Christmas presents to my niece and nephews when they all reached 21. I feel a little bit mean, but they're all grown up now. My aunty stopped giving me gifts when I became an adult.

My close family get a birthday gift or money of around £100. DH and I don't give each other presents. At Christmas the DGD get a reasonable present and we give DD ( aged 50) and her husband and DS ( aged 46) and his wife £1000. We do this because we can .

I have always given my three children and seven grandkids £100 each for birthdays and C.... since the 90 s I only have my pension but don't have many needs myself so although it sounds a lot it's amazing how little it buys once they get to teenage years I don't buy for the inlaws that comes out of the £100 which they can do what they like with share it out or buy something for the home at C....and I send them a token birthday pressie it's true my kids earn mor.e than me but for me it's my treat Two kids and five grandkids live abroad so sending presents is hard and I can't take them out to dinner or a show during the year
I expect to keep sending as they re still my grandkids and kids !

I don't even buy for my two sons now they are in their thirties and with a much larger income than DH and I. Instead, I invite them to ours for a meal of their choice. Rather strangely perhaps, I do give the two DiLs a token bunch of flowers on their birthdays - in a way, it is in recognition of their part in seeing that I get at least a card on my own birthday

I stopped when they got to 18 I was told by my eldest grandson in no uncertain terms that he was earning now and I'd been buying gifts all his life it was time to stop so I have. None of them have minded or commented now there are only 2 with one on the way who are under 18 but of course I now buy for 2 Great Grandsons with more on the way it does seem it will be never ending

We're not quite at that stage as the older ones are at uni and have holiday jobs. I send Amazon tokens instead of cash.

The eldest one will soon be graduating though and has just landed a well paid job so I will probably buy a present rather than send money or vouchers because I can reduce the amount without it being obvious.