Feeling guilty about an unnecessary and extravagant purchase

Although what I really like is clean bedding, I change it all every week but would really like to change it twice weekly ( if I had the energy) that just washed scent is heavenly.

I am generous with family but sometimes forget to treat myself and always ask myself do I need it, so I understand where you are coming from however you do spend a lot of time in bed and you will sleep well in new nice bedding. You have been generous to others and sometimes you should treat yourself. Enjoy your lovely bedding.

I've come late to this, but Chewy, you did the right thing. I have three sets, just right. My temptation at the moment is new towels. I don't need any more, haven't really got room in the airing cupboard, but oh, they are so lovely. Maybe in the sales?

Please don't feel guiltyChewbacca, you earned your bonus and a bedding set is something that you will enjoy and appreciate for a long time. It's lovely to have a bit of luxury in our lives if we can afford it!

That’s not at all excessive. Try dividing the cost by 52 and then tell yourself you’re are worth at least that much every week....works for me!

I hope you are having a wonderful guilt free sleep in your lovely new bedding .
I'm with grannyqueenie and always look at cost-per -use when considering a purchase .

Of course you shouldn't feel guilty - your hard-earned bonus, your choice, and spend it on what gives you pleasure. But this thread has made me think about my own bedding, probably for the first time! I've only two sets for our bed - one of them we bought second hand when the kids were young and we were skint, the other plain white and not exactly high end either. It's probably the last thing I'd spend money on. I do always like it to be fresh and clean, though, and I appreciate a good mattress and duvet.

Unless the guilt is part of the pleasure of buying your treat, ditch it.

You didn't spend money on your bed linen that would otherwise have fed your starving children or bought them desperately needed medication or shoes. You received a bonus and frittered some of it, and from the sound of it, not very much, relatively. on a treat for yourself. You earned it.

Enjoy the treat and ditch the guilt.

I agree was a gift for the house Chewbacca
and sounds like you must have worked exceptionally hard throughout the year.
Previously I would have put money towards a trip or holiday, now it's grandchildren all the way
And then some lovely towels or bedding .
Decorating in the new year so have planned a trip to the sales for just that.

You could probably just drink tap water, wash everything by hand and holiday in the garden. Whats wrong with decent bedding? Or a decent bed/mattress come to that. Sounds like a good way to spend your own hard earned money.

Nice bedding is one of life’s great pleasures and not really so very expensive when you compare it to other indulgences. I am not well off, but always budget for beautiful linens and get so much pleasure from them. I probably do have more than I need - make that definitely - but I have never regretted it.
One little thing, and I feel rather mean and horrid saying this, I occasionally have guests who are not particular about their personal cleanliness. I am very fond of them, but try as I might, I can’t bring myself to put my best, beautiful bedding on when they stay. The thought of grubby feet on my Egyptian cotton sheets is just more than I can bear. They have to make do with the ordinary stuff, which is still perfectly nice. There - I feel ashamed now, but what’s a girl to do? ?

Nothing wrong with the occasional splurge. It took me a long time to not feel guilty about treating myself and I still feel the odd twinge - but there is no one to tell you off but yourself and you know nothing bad is going to happen. You helped create a job for the person who sold it to you, the person who made it, the person who grew the cotton and the person who delivered it to the store. I don't like excessive commercialism and we have to have less waste - but your sheets are a necessity and now your's will last longer because they will each get less wear. Just enjoy them.

Just a moan, why can't we have, in UK, labels on bedding stating whether queen size, king size etc. I have white bedding (enough to see me out and beyond) and some old USA stuff. The USA bedding is labelled according to size. Have resorted to permanent marker but it is not that permanent!

I think you need 3 sets.If you change the bed and put a set in the wash and then someone is sick or has another accident you need to use the 3rd set.

Enjoy, as so many others have said. We are a generation brought up not to indulge ourselves, but I feel we should all be able to treat ourselves from time to time. When faced by a choice such as yours I always ask myself what I would say to a friend and I would tell her to spoil herself for once.

You can never have enough nice bedding. Nothing is nicer than getting into bed in good quality bed linen it not luxury but essential. In my childhood we were very poor, bedding thin and worn, never enough of it, so I guess this is why I make up for it now filling a need from childhood I guess.

You can have a different bedding set for every day of the year if you want them and if you have earned the money to pay for them yourself, which you obviously have. No guilt needs to be involved at all.

Chewy I agree with everyone here. The bonus was yours , you've shared it. Why not spend it on yourself?

As for feeling that 3 sets of bedding is "extravagant", i have 6. That is extravagant...

Enjoy sleeping in the lovely, fresh, new, extravagant bedding!

I think unless you know for a fact you have some heavy bills coming up that you didn't think you could pay (in which case yes keep the money) it's better to spend it on something you want and like. Otherwise all that happens is it sits there till it's eventually eaten up by all manner of little things and you've got nothing to show for it.

Four sets for our bed, used in rotation. They're all different shades and patterns of green and yellow, and go with the curtains.

You did the right thing to buy something you really liked for yourself. Don't plague yourself with doubts. You must have done a good job for your employer to receive a great bonus, so be proud of yourself for being rewarded and just tell yourself that it's your own money well spent .... on yourself - for yourself. You absolute earned it!

I have a bedset addiction, justifying it by mostly buying in the Next sales! Probably about a dozen & counting....

It was the best possible way to spend that money. You will have yers of pleasure from it. Others would have spent it on an expensive meal or a weekend away - those pleasures would have been very short-lived. As someone said, divide it by 52 and you will see it in a different light.

Hi everyone
I'm new here but I've been reading your posts almost daily to get a feel for how it's 'done', the niceties observed etc.
The bedding thread ( no pun intended) is one I relate to. I live on my own but my bed is so important to me. I splurged on an expensive wool, silk and cotton mattress and a separate thick mattress topper which means I practically need a stool to climb into bed.
I too, like crisp white sheets which I buy from an Italian import company in Reading who service 5* hotels with linen. (FRETTE) If I buy sets I almost always use white sheets with them but, as my winter duvet is a California King (bought in Maceys) I can't easily get covers to fit so I have a top sheet and huge soft pale pink or a grey crushed velvet throw. I live pillows too and have two on each side plus two large square (EU) pillows...always in white Oxford pillowcases. Too many sets to count.

Three's too many for me but I'm the poorest interior aware person in the world and one of everything makes my life much easier. Basically, I'm just plain lazy and a non-hoarder. I hope you get lots of pleasure from your new purchase Chewbacca. Sounds as though you already are. Champion!