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Would you let your 25 year-old son see you naked?

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pattypan Wed 20-Dec-17 12:13:02

I realise this is a slightly odd question but it has not come from nowhere but because Birds of A Feather Star Linda Robson said yesterday that she lets her son so he can see what real women look like. While I applaud the idea of the normalisation of women rather than the airbrushed celebrity look that is pushed in the media, I can't help thinking this is rather distasteful. Am I wrong? www.mirror.co.uk/tv/tv-news/linda-robson-lets-25-year-11721558

Bellasnana Thu 21-Dec-17 06:20:09

I'm not at all prudish, but there is such a thing as respecting each other's privacy.

My son is 27 and still lives at home. I am sure he would not like to have the image of his naked mother imprinted on his mind, any more than I would want to see him naked now he's a grown man.

Some of the posts on here have made me chuckle grin

Fennel Thu 21-Dec-17 07:56:25

No way!
As a child we lived with my grandparents, and I used to get dressed in the morning in front of the gas fire, with Granny.
It puzzled me that she put her undies on beneath her voluminous nightie, like a tent, and I wondered what she was hiding - now I know.

BlueBelle Thu 21-Dec-17 08:02:41

By the way I should add I m in no way prudish I don’t haive any problem with nudity in others but I do think it’s about respect and acceptable adult behaviour

lemongrove Thu 21-Dec-17 08:39:50

I can imagine DS’s reaction if we ambled about in the buff in front of him now!
We only did this when the children were young.

Nanny123 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:30:11

Not at all. I worked with a girl once and she casually said that her husband would walk around the house naked in front of her then 18 year old daughter - I really found that gross to be honest.

MaggieMay69 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:34:53

Lol oh dear, my poor kids have been subjected to the human form since they arrived in the world, no shame nor embarrassment here!
With two sons and two daughters, I wanted to be very different from my own mother, who found it hard to talk about being naked, let alone actually being in the nuddy! Even when myself and siblings were children she would hide herself away, or be mortified if we walked in on her in the bathroom. This sent messages that the human body is shameful!
So, I was the complete opposite, but I had to firstly repress all I had been taught! With my babies I breastfed wherever and whenever, as they were children myself and my husband would happily be nude in front of our kids, and while I would never nip round to my sons house and parade around naked (God Forbid, would put them off their weetabix!)
My children all know a naked body isn't shameful/gross/disgusting, its skin, bone, tissue, and its lucky my sons don't get squeamish because when I gave birth to their youngest sister, I was completely naked and my teenagers had to help me out of the bath and call an ambulance!
Nothing wrong with your kids seeing you naked, but no, wouldn't go and put on a show lol.

Yellowmellow Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:18

I wouldn't subject anyone to seeing me naked right now let alone one of my sons or any of my grandsons!

Lilyflower Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:19

God no! He'd be traumatised and I would shrivel with embarrassment. But then I was brought up by a very prudish Irish, Catholic mother.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:27

If I needed help with washing and dressing I think I'd feel embarrassed if a male family member had to do this for me.
As children it was always a case of covering ourselves up. Poor mum had a weight problem and dad would've taken great delight in making fun of her if she had ever dared to wear anything like a swimsuit. A sad situation, really.

Megmegmeg Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:55

It's a big no from me.

Pamaga Thu 21-Dec-17 09:38:23

I wouldn't intentionally but if he happened to see me I wouldn't freak out about it. I am sure my son would be more embarrassed than me!

MissAdventure Thu 21-Dec-17 09:39:15

I think I only saw my dad in his vest 2 or 3 times in my life! I haven't got a problem with other people being naked. I have worked in care for years, and have seen every size and shape of body. I truly believe everyone is beautiful in their own way, but for myself, I'm very shy about uncovering.

Coolgran65 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:39:37

I'd sooner have pins in my eyes !!!

Marion58 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:45:42

No! I'm not too keen on seeing myself ! She more than likely said it for publicity!

Coconut Thu 21-Dec-17 09:47:13

I never covered myself up when my kids were growing up, however now they are all approx 40 and flown the nest a long time ago, it would probably feel a bit awkward. Not so with my daughter, but def with my sons.

Esspee Thu 21-Dec-17 09:50:19

Only if I never wanted to see him again!

Apricity Thu 21-Dec-17 09:51:39

No, I would not feel comfortable doing that. It would not be a major event if it happened accidently with my 40 year old son, more something to laugh about but not deliberate exposure. I do think adult sons can work this out all by themselves. I wonder if the actress who made the initial comment may be have something to prove herself rather than her son's need for education about the realities of the female body. If you haven't conveyed some understanding of that to your son by the time they are 25+ I rather think you have missed the boat.

Cambia Thu 21-Dec-17 09:52:01

Definitely not! I still love skinny dipping in secluded places but only when OH and I are around. Have two sons around 40, one wouldn’t care but the other would be horrified! Think by the time they are 40, they have probably worked out what real women look like anyway!!!

carol58 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:52:32

Eeugh no! Not big on nudity at all and it's too darn cold in the UK to prance about naked. Did used to share a bath with my kids, both sexes, up until they were around 5 though. At that age they become quite aware of the differences. A little mystery is not a bad thing IMO.

GabriellaG Thu 21-Dec-17 09:54:41

My sons would be embarrased so I would never allow myself to be seen naked (by them)
I'm ok with the way I look, even after 5 children and 6 pregnancies but, just as my children wouldn't like me to talk about sex, I know that they wouldn't like me walking around in the buff or even my underwear. It's just having respect for the relationship.

GabriellaG Thu 21-Dec-17 09:55:12

*embarrassed

Teddy123 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:56:31

We were totally relaxed about being naked in front of our kids and vice versa. From a distant memory (twin son & daughter now 39) when they were about 10-12, I noticed bathroom door would be locked. From then on I started closing my bedroom or en suite door if I was undressed etc. A natural progression to privacy so a big NO, they never see me naked.

henetha Thu 21-Dec-17 09:57:57

No! That's embarrassing and weird and yuk!

Diddy1 Thu 21-Dec-17 10:01:36

Definately NO, although I believe in the country where I live, people often walk around the house naked, never seen this though.

lesley4357 Thu 21-Dec-17 10:06:07

If its something you've always done, then yes ok, it would be strange to suddenly start covering up. It's only skin ffs