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Re-gifting!

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Telly Sat 20-Jan-18 18:20:30

Have you been re-gifted i.e received a present that has been passed on? I don't have a problem with this, but generally speaking you know when something has been re-gifted. I remember a big birthday when a close friend gave me some earrings. Bit surprised as she buys some lovely things (not necessarily expensive, but just right) but they were not my thing. As I was putting them away, it came to me that they were her birthstone and she had told me that one Christmas an elderly relative had bought all the females in the family earrings that matched their birthstones. Puzzle solved. Still have them in the box somewhere.......

newnanny Mon 22-Jan-18 14:49:43

If we receive any gifts we won't use we donate to Scout group draw. They are always pleased with items. When I was teaching at Christmas I would often be given twenty little gifts of chocolates or flowers. Far too much for us to eat so would save to donate to draw.

inishowen Mon 22-Jan-18 15:12:03

Slightly off topic but I bought a brand new baby outfit in a charity shop. It still had the M&S labels on. I gave it to my daughter for her baby. A few weeks later she told me she'd taken it back to M&S for a refund and hoped I wasn't offended. I hadn't the nerve to ask her what they said!

BlueBelle Mon 22-Jan-18 15:16:05

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chicken Mon 22-Jan-18 15:53:56

A couple of Christmasses ago, an old friend's present to me was a book of crossword puzzles, most of them filled in, and a book which had been a free gift with a newspaper, with a large coffee cup stain on the front. I think that was regifting taken to extremes!

MissAdventure Mon 22-Jan-18 15:55:52

grin

Maggiemaybe Mon 22-Jan-18 16:08:35

I've just had a light bulb moment. I've worked out that the size 18 slips DMIL used to give me when I was a size 8/10 were probably re-gifted - I hadn't twigged, just wondered why. confused I used to re-gift them to DH's size 18 auntie, so hope they didn't originate from her!

kathsue Mon 22-Jan-18 17:07:54

When I get presents that aren't to my liking I put them in a raffle at a club I go to. The profits go to charity so every-body wins. Other people do the same and one time I won a very nice box of chocolates but when I opened it one of the chocolates was missing!

grandMattie Mon 22-Jan-18 17:19:49

I'm allergic to all "smellies", so always re-gift them! Try to remember who gave me what and avoid returning them to the donor.
My mother was dreadful! She2d open a present, say "What do I want with that?", turn to whoever was next to her - in the presence of the donor - and say "Would you like this?" I used to find it horribly hurtful...

Greengage Mon 22-Jan-18 18:17:08

I have no idea if I've ever been re-gifted anything, but I would always consider myself very lucky that anyone has wished to give me anything in the first place. Occasionally I might be a little surprised by a gift but I would never be ungrateful.

Lorelei Mon 22-Jan-18 18:51:17

The only example I can think of off the top of my head is flowers....my better half used to work in an office and one of the women he worked with had a row with her boyfriend (maybe ex-boyfriend, lol) who had then sent her a huge bouquet of flowers. She was apparently fuming with him and was going to throw them in the bin. My better half said not to bin them as I would like them so she told him to take them. They all thought he'd lie and say he bought them - not so, he told me the backstory and I loved them - it was a beautiful bouquet and probably a £50+ one at that, and they lasted ages smile

Jaxie Tue 23-Jan-18 10:15:41

My conscience is pricking Gransnetters. I do recycle gifts, but only the type I'd like to receive myself ( saves spending out). If I think the item is in dubious taste I take it to a charity shop. I have a silly habit of buying things in sales and keeping them to give to others in case I can't get to the shops. Some have been there for years so I'm going to be ruthless and take them to the charity shop where they may do some good. I suspect those of us brought up immediately post war in the "make do and mend" era have difficulty with gifting.

grandtanteJE65 Tue 23-Jan-18 11:17:52

I never re-gift presents. When I receive something that is not to my taste, I either give it away to a charity shop, or ask a friend or family member if they would like it, making it plain that someone gave me it, and that I don't need or want it. That way I hope to avoid the embarrassing situation of giving someone back their gift to me.

muddynails Tue 23-Jan-18 17:26:13

I'm all for re-gifting unless recipient (daughter in law) who had been given it then give it to her mother within the day and then the mother knowingly shows it to you the next day as my daughter in laws mother did to me this christmas, this was an expensive clinique body and hand product box I chose contents especially as didn't think there was anything objectionable about any of it, Daughter in-law very fussy, but action not excusable, she could have given it away at later date , yes still angry, won't bother again.

MesMopTop Tue 23-Jan-18 17:54:36

Received a beautiful glass jug and matching set of drinking glasses as an engagement present from the in laws. PIL obviously forgot I had bought them a year or so previously for them ?

celebgran Tue 23-Jan-18 18:18:15

Oh dear some of these have made me laugh!

As my husband gets good boots discount I am never short of good perfumes and toiletries
An ex v old friend gave me an obvious unwanted raffle prize full of cheap Avon stuff and a grubby me to you bear on it! So obviously second hand!

Thing is she had given me main present this was an extra! So why insult me?

I received v pretty compact mirror 2 years running from elderly neibor bless her for my birthday I had already got beautiful one from my dh and an engraved one from friend on my 60th so I did retort that still in box.